What did you not say yesterday? Were there things you wish you had said but held back? Did you corral certain words, certain sentences, and hold them for another opportunity? Were some thoughts pushed below the surface, allowed to be changed with time, perhaps to be forgotten forever? How many "I love you's" went unsaid that would have healed an aching heart? As with sleep, you cannot store them and build a reserve to tap into at a later date. Their power, their balming effect, quickly dissipates with disuse. They work only in the moment that they were intended. Left idle, their potential is gone, the object of their delivery untouched by kindness, by tenderness.
"I love you." It is so simple to say. Three words. There are many other opportunities to say them, but none more important and possessing more potential than now. Words can have the opposite effect if left unsaid, almost as if they were spoken as opposites. Silence can equal the opposite. "I love you" unsaid can become "I don't love you" out loud. Your most tender and endearing thoughts, if not allowed to fly free from the prison of your mind, may silently tell someone that you don't care. How many times has your silence told your partner or child that you didn't love them? How often has an unsaid word created the opposite effect? Think of all the lives that would have been changed had armies of sentences been allowed to roam free. Those who go through life cloaked in spoken endearments, wrapped and comforted in the voiced love of others, are truly blessed. The power of the spoken word is mighty. The power of silence can be mightier still.
Countless millions of words have been written and spoken since the beginning of human history. A total of all the words in all the libraries of the world, past and present, and every word of every conversation, idle chatter, lecture, broadcast, and speech in history would be dwarfed by the vast legions of words left unsaid, those rendered impotent by silence. Not that it is a good thing to instantly speak every thought that comes to mind: chaos would ensue. We have to be selective of our words and deliver them into the pattern of conversation where appropriate; however, it is our mental editing that isolates certain words and thoughts as unspeakable, and sentences them to die (pun intended).
Words can change the world. They can incite, torture, kill, comfort, heal, encourage, humiliate, anger, inspire, sadden, give joy, make one laugh, and they can forever change one's life. There are many kinds of words: "In other words," four-letter-words, words that are read, words to make you blue; there is the spoken word, the written word, the forgotten word; we put words in someone's mouth, and we don't have the words to express.... Words, words, everywhere, and not a thought to speak. And the unsaid words-oh, how they could have changed the course of history! Would they have altered the destructive lives of John Wilkes Booth, Adolph Hitler, Lee Harvey Oswald, Jeffrey Daumer, or the Son of Sam? Would the unspoken "I love you's" have given them a new lease on life had those three words been bestowed upon them?
The power of words and their silent cousins: "What did you say?" "Nothing." Think of the consequences had that "nothing" actually been, "I was wrong. I'm sorry. I apologize and want to make it up to you." Instead, a relationship was probably hurt forever, or even eventually terminated. "Ouch, that hurts," if left unsaid, can become one of many familiar wedges in a marriage, or any relationship. Not expressed, it can fester inside, becoming worse and much larger over time than it originally was. It also will accumulate other unsaid "ouches," and grow to become a very powerful "I hate your guts." It can eat at one's insides if not voiced. Actually, its release will help the relationship; its incarceration will destroy.
Don't withhold. Let the hostages go. Release the words while they still hold their meaning. Release them before they change in silence. The loneliest place in the world, more desolate and forbidding than the blackest cell of any prison, is a silent marriage/partnership. All the city lights from Manhattan to Bangkok could probably be powered by the turbulent energy of the silent, but unrelenting, dialogues churning in the minds of an unhappy couple. And it would be possible, as well, to freeze solid the oceans of the world by the dynamics between the two.
Allow your thoughts to be heard. You are the most powerful person on earth. You alone possess the ability to change your world, make friends, and influence people. You have the key. Use your words for good. They can help you. Don't withhold them, for in their muted state they can turn on you. Life is a fine balance of releasing the right words in the right order at the right time, and deciding which words are truly better left unsaid.
快来测一测!会解这道题的人智商超150
苹果新专利:再不怕英文自动修正闹笑话了
小天使们的伤心事,心疼哭
郑州“女性专用公交”引争议
儿科医生:为了孩子的语言发展 请父母远离手机!
没有WiFi就会疯?断网24小时你会做什么?
五个让你虚度人生的简单步骤
国际英语资讯:Afghanistan holds presidential polls amid fear of insecurity, fraud
减肥后体重反弹 那不是你的错
不吃早餐比连吃两顿早餐更易增重!
特朗普还是希拉里 数据告诉你
“标签自拍”运动揭露快时尚内幕
10秒内可捡起掉在地上的食物吃?!别再信啦
宜家耐克:这些大牌的英文名连老外都会读错
让柠檬来告诉你是外向还是内向
婚外情泛滥 私人侦探生意忙!
优步联手支付宝方便中国用户海外叫车
74条经典而实用的工作经验
为什么不能把钱包放在后口袋
国内英语资讯:Top political advisor calls for broadest patriotic united front at National Day reception
调查:北京房租负担排名全球第一
体坛英语资讯:Flamengo beat Palmeiras to remain top of Brazils Serie A
特朗普没准真能赢:五个理由
你信么? 人这辈子亲密朋友只有5个!
“为食物垃圾买单” 韩国在行动
研究发现:边听音乐边工作阻碍创造力
国际英语资讯:EU civil protection mechanism to provide assistance to Albanians hit by earthquake
娱乐英语资讯:8th Rock in Rio festival opens in Brazil
这10句话一定不要对伴侣说!
国内英语资讯:One-China principle meets shared aspiration of people: spokesperson
不限 |
英语教案 |
英语课件 |
英语试题 |
不限 |
不限 |
上册 |
下册 |
不限 |