积极乐观的人不会做的14件事

1. They Don’t Assume the Worst

不总往坏处想

It’s amazing how many problems wouldn’t exist if we didn’t invent them. Positive people know that leaping to conclusions is usually a bad idea. Instead of freaking out about an unanswered text (“What if they don’t like me?”), they go on with their day (“hmm, they must be busy!”). Before they decide another person is untrustworthy, they make an honest effort to find out more about them.

如果我们不去乱想，其实很多问题根本就不存在，懂不懂？积极的人知道太在意结局不是个好办法。与其花时间去乱想那些没有答案的东西（如果他们不喜欢我怎么办？），不如就去认为他们也有自己的生活（恩，他们实在太忙！）。在决定判定一个人靠不住之前，他们会积极地去了解更多。

2. They Don’t Resist the Truth

不抗拒事实

It’s easy to live in a lie because lies can grow so strong that it can eventually make people forget about the truth. Positive people know that they need to face the truth and live with it because making excuses will never get a solution for what have gone wrong.

活在谎言之中非常简单，因为谎言会慢慢变大以致让你忽视真理的存在。积极的人知道他们需要去面对事实，接受事实。一味的找理由永远不会为那些难题找到解决方法。

3. They Don’t Hold On To Resentment

不怨恨

Positive people understand that resentment only causes pain in life over and over again, so they let go of it. They choose to accept and forgive things happened in the past to move on with what they have learned from the incidents.

积极的人明白怨恨只会给生活增加层层伤痛，不如索性放下。他们选择去接受原谅过去那些事情，带着经验教训继续朝前走。

4. They Don’t Forget the Little Things

事无小事

Is it easy to forget the little things? Certainly. But positive people don’t make a habit of it. Instead, they express gratitude for every blessing, no matter how big or small. They know it’s silly to think more stuff will make them feel better if they can’t be happy about what they have.

小事是不是特别容易忘记？当然。但积极的人不会让自己有这样的坏习惯，他们会感激任何一件事，不论大小。他们知道正是现在所拥有的一切才让他们感到如此幸福快乐。

5. They Don’t Pass the Buck

不推卸责任

Positive people realize they are the CEO of their life and thus take full responsibility for how things are. They didn’t get “stuck in traffic” — they were late. They didn’t “have something come up” — they forgot. Positive people don’t claim “they can’t help it,” because they can do anything they set their mind to.

积极的人把自己看成人生的主宰者，对所有的事情负全责。他们不会在人生”堵车“而迟到。也不会因为忘记而“遇到突发情况”。积极的人不会说“他们无能为力”，因为只要他们想，就一定可以做到。

6. They Don’t See Problems as “Problems”

不把困难当“困难”

The word “problems” is seen as “challenges” for positive people. They believe that every obstacle comes as an opportunity that is yet to be discovered. Positive people take the chance to challenge themselves and improve their life.

对积极的人来说，“困难”是一种“挑战”。他们相信每个困难都暗含被发掘的机遇。积极的人抓住机会去不断挑战自己提高生活。

7. They Don’t Resign Themselves to “Reality.”

不向现实屈服

This “reality” most people speak of sounds like a dreadful place where dreams go to die. Positive people know that anything is possible with consistency and hustle, so they choose to write their own reality.

大部分人说到"现实”都觉得是一个梦想灭绝的恐怖地狱。积极的人知道只要坚持和奋斗，一切皆有可能，所以他们选择书写自己的现实。

8. They Don’t Expect Something for Nothing

不指望天上掉馅饼

Positive people don’t fall for “lose weight fast” or “get rich quick” scams. They know that anything worth having requires hard work (often, lots of it). Positive people are comfortable with the fact that achieving success might take a bit longer than they would like (but will be so worth it).

积极的人不会掉入“迅速减肥” “快速致富” 这样的陷阱里去。他们知道每件事都需要努力付出（持续，大量的努力）。积极的人永远乐于接受现实，哪怕成功的道路会比想象中要稍微长点（但绝对值得）。

9. They Don’t Get Bored

不会觉得无聊

Boredom is a place where creativity, inspiration, and productivity die. Positive people are fascinated by everything around them. They explore the world with enthusiasm and curiosity, asking as many questions as they can. On a similar note, fun fact: did you know you have atoms in your body that were created in a star 13 billion years ago? True story (so you don’t get to be bored).

无聊扼杀创造力、激情和效率。积极的人会对周围的一切感到惊喜。他们带着激情和好奇去探索世界，问着各类问题。同样有趣的事实：你知道体内有一些分子是13亿年前就已经出现的么？ 是真的哦！（你永远都不会觉得无聊了）。

10. They Don’t Let Negative Thoughts Hijack Their Brain

不会让消极的思想侵占大脑

Positive people don’t subject themselves to a chorus of self-defeating negative thoughts. When a negative thought passes through their head, they remind themselves: if I wouldn’t say it about another person, I shouldn’t think it about myself.

积极的人才不会让自己被那些消极的思想打败呢。当消极的想法出现，他们就会提醒自己，如果我没有这样说过别人，我就不应该这么想自己。

11. They Don’t Make Comparison With Others

不和别人比较

Positive people understand that everyone is different and has his own progress, so they don’t compare themselves to other people. They are confident about what they have and what they do. Instead of focusing on how others are doing, they pay attention on how to improve their own life.

积极的人了解每个人都不同，有着自己的成长轨迹，所以从不跟别人对比。他们对自己拥有和从事的一切非常自信。与其花时间关注其他人在干什么，他们会更加热衷于提高自己的生活质量。

12. They Don’t Agonize Over Every Little Mistake

不会为小错误纠结

Positive people don’t look at failure as a terrible thing to avoid at all costs. They know that failure is a possibility when it comes to trying anything new. Seeing failure for what it is (a learning opportunity and nothing more) helps positive people achieve massive success as they learn and grow.

积极的人不会因为把失败看成极度恐怖的事情而不惜一切代价去避免。他们知道尝试任何一件事都会有失败的可能。把失败看淡（比如看成一次学习的机会或者根本就没什么大不了）能让积极的人在学习成长的过程中获得更大的成功。

13. They Don’t Think Life Is Perfect

不会觉得生活是完美的

Positive people forget about perfection, because it’s just not possible. When is the last time you thought, “Wow, this is the perfect day to get in shape,” or “You know what? This is the day I quit my job, move to Santa Fe, and pursue my real passion?” Oh, that’s right: you didn’t, because there isn’t a “perfect time” to do anything. Positive people take action in the here and now, perfection be damned.

积极的人不苛求完美，因为世上本无完美可言啊。“哇，今天真是适合健身的完美日子啊！” 或者“你知道么，就是今天，我要辞职搬到圣达菲起，追求我真正的梦想去了！” 上次这么想是什么时候来着？好像没有对吧，因为做任何事都不会有一个“完美的时机”。积极的人会立即行动，而不是亟待完美时机的到来。

14. They Don’t Hang Out with Toxic People

不和“有毒”的人混在一起

Positive people don’t let negative, toxic people drag them down. Instead, they surround themselves with other positive people who are fun and inspiring to be with. Why should a positive person spend their time with a person who complains about everything and gossips about everybody? Positive people know there is no good answer to that question.

积极的人不会让消极思想的人们把他们拖下水。相反，他们会让周围聚集一群积极有趣有激情的人们。积极的人为何要花时间去和总是不断抱怨不断八卦的人在一起呢？当然这个问题没有完美的答案。