我该不该和前男友共进晚餐?

He hurt me so much, and I made a new life elsewhere. Now he's here, visiting, and wants to see me.

他无情地伤害了我，我已经在别处开始了新生活。但他却来到了这里，想见我……

Dear Eeee Jean: I'm a pretty, smart girl who's gone through shattering, horrible, tragic heartbreak because of a man I absolutely adored. After I spent half a year getting to know him, then a year and a half in the gawdawfullest part of the South trying to develop a relationship with him, he unceremoniously dumped me. I came to my senses, moved back to New York, and began a new career. My problem? He is flying in for business and has asked me to dinner.

亲爱的伊·简：我是个长相甜美的聪明姑娘，有过一段伤心欲绝的分手经历，当然分手对象是我曾深爱的男人。我花了半年的时间了解他，然后又在南方一个最糟糕的地区呆了一年半，试图和他发展恋情，最后，他绝情地抛弃了我。我幡然醒悟，搬回了纽约，找了一份新工作。这是我的问题吗？现在他飞回纽约谈生意，邀请我和他共进晚餐。

I've thought endlessly about what I'm going to wear, revved up the diet and exercise, imagined all sorts of ridiculously expensive restaurants he might invite me to, but I (honestly!) don't indulge any grand fantasy of him saying: "I was wrong; I'm moving here to be with you. Marry me." My question: Should I even bother spending an evening with this man? And if I end up seeing him, do I play it cool? Or should I be all sugar, like I normally am? I really want him to eat his heart out! Clearly I've lost all perspective. -Slightly Over the Edge

这段时间，我不停的在想当晚应该穿什么、加大了节食和锻炼强度、无休止地想象他会带我去哪家餐厅，会不会贵的离谱。但（说实话），我并没有幻想他会说这样的话："我错了；我搬到这儿就是为了你。嫁给我吧。"我的问题是：我还要不要和这个男人吃饭？如果我真的去见他了，是该假装冷静还是做自我（甜心宝贝）呢？我真的很想让他伤心难过！显然，我已经方寸大乱了。

Slightly, Sugar: Should you "bother"? Please. Just go there and be yourself. But I warn you: Your imagination has lathered up the smoochie-smoochie so thoroughly (dress, menu, "will you marry me"-yes! Don't fib to Eeee), your skepticism has been lost in the shuffle. The man's an "unceremonious" ass. Therefore, allow me to suggest another scenario: You kiss him goodnight in front of the restaurant; you jump in a cab, slam the door, wind down the window, throw him another kiss; and, as he stands throbbing on the sidewalk, you zoom away-gloriously, gorgeously indifferent.

悠着点，甜心宝贝：你该不该费心去一趟呢？请去吧，做你自己！但我还是得警告一句：你的想象可能会成为泡影（礼服、菜单、"你愿意嫁给我吗"--我愿意！不要对我撒谎了），你已经迷失了自我，那个男人可是个"绝情的"混蛋啊！所以，我觉得这样做会更好：你在餐厅前吻了他（晚安吻）、拦了辆出租车、关上车门、摇下车窗，又亲了他一下；他则站在人行道上心动不已，看着你慢慢地离去，但他却觉得那样的你耀眼的令人离不开眼！