浪漫其实并不难：如何做一个浪漫的人？

All our technological advancements have been achieved by nerds, so we have a ways to go before robots know how to talk to girls. Being romantic in any situation is easy. It takes comfort in your own skin, a lot of inner confidence, and a smile. Beyond that, everything else is easy. So how do you achieve all that with a girl?

实现我们所有科技进步的是计算机书呆子们，所以在机器人知道该如何跟女孩聊天之前，我们还有很长一段路要走。做一个浪漫的人并不难，只需要你自己表现自然，内在充满自信，还有一个微笑。除此之外，其他事情都很简单。那么你该如何在和女孩交往时做到这些呢？

1. Prepare in Advance

提前准备

Everything in life is easier when you’re prepared. No matter how smart you are, preparation is indispensable. Sure Jackie Chan can make do with whatever he has available, but it’s nice to have an Arnold or Brad Pitt level of gear stored up. Be prepared for any situation you leave the house for. This doesn’t mean to carry a gear bag with you. It means any time you go out, prepare for those situations. Meeting a broad at the supermarket can happen if you time it right and have the right grocery list.

如果你有所准备，生活中所有的事情都会简单许多。不管你有多聪明，准备都是绝对必要的。当然，成龙拿起手边的任何东西都可以应付对手，但最好还是准备好像施瓦辛格和布拉德·皮特这种级别的。出发时为各种场合做好准备。这并不是说要你带一个装备袋，而是说只要你出门，就要为所有情形做好准备。在超市里有段艳遇是完全可能的，如果你的时机正确，而且准备对了购物清单。

2. Read and Study

阅读学习

The only way to be confident in any situation is by having things to talk about no matter what happens. Going out, and reading (even internet research when done correctly) will broaden your horizons and give you a variety of subjects to talk about. Keep up on the news, sports, and have a background in a few things. Be honest when you don’t know what you’re talking about. Trust is important to build romance.

在任何情况下都能保持自信的唯一方法，就是不论发生什么，都有内容可以侃侃而谈。出去走走，或者阅读（方法得当的话网上阅读也可以）都可以开阔你的视野，让你有许多可以谈论的内容。对资讯和体育保持关注，多了解一些事情的背景。当你不清楚在谈论什么的时候，要诚实。信任对于建立浪漫很重要。

3. Be Open and Honest

心胸开阔、诚实

As long as you’re always honest, you’ll always be open. When you’re open, you’ll attract the right people into your life at the right times. You never know who will be in the same mood as you and where romance will come from, so as long as you’re open and honest with everyone you talk to, you’ll always remain open for romance.

只要你是个诚实的人，你就会心胸开阔。当你心胸开阔的时候，你就会在对的时间吸引对的人进入那你的生活。你永远不会知道谁会和你有同样的心情，浪漫会从哪里发生。所以只要你对每个人保持心胸开阔和诚实，浪漫之门就一直为你敞开。

4. Learn to Love Yourself

学会爱自己

If you love yourself, you’ll be the type of person who draws people to you. This means you’re more attractive. By being more attractive, you’re more likely to realize your attraction and act more attractive. This increases your odds of romance spurring up at any moment, no matter what your life is like.

如果你爱自己，你就是那种可以把人们吸引到你身边来的类型。这意味着你更有吸引力，这样一来你更有可能意识到自己的吸引力，而且变得更有吸引力。这会增加各种时刻浪漫发生的几率，不论你的生活怎样。

5. Be Discreet

谨慎小心

If you’re in a marriage or relationship, don’t rub it in everyone’s face. Be polite and honest when asked, and respect the boundaries of the relationship. Other than that, act normal in public. Your significant other will be more likely to get freaky when they’re comfortable. You’ll also attract other women you can either store for later if your relationship isn’t serious or use to get ahead in life, your career, etc. It’s always nice to have attractive friends to keep things interesting. Just make sure you can look yourself in the mirror.

如果你已经结婚或者正在恋爱，不要见人就秀幸福。被问起时礼貌诚实地回答，并且尊重这段关系的界线。此外，在公众场合表现地自然一些。当你的另一半感觉舒服时更有可能变得浪漫。如果你的关系不够认真或者和你的生活、事业发生冲突，你也可以吸引其他女孩留着以后交往。有一些有吸引力的朋友让生活更有趣总是好的。只是确保你要认清镜中的自己。

6. Surprise People

给他人惊喜

Everyone loves to be surprised in the right ways. Find ways to ignite a spark in the room. Keep some good dark chocolate on you at all times. If you know how to make some small craft, keep a few in a drawer in your room. If you’re not crafty, keep some cheap but tasteful jewelry in some luggage. Either way, always have something on hand to pull out spur of the moment to surprise your woman. Chicks dig surprises.

每个人都喜欢收到惊喜，只要方式正确。想办法在房间内点亮火花。随身携带一些优质的黑巧克力。如果你知道如何制作一些小玩意，在房间的抽屉里放一些。如果你不擅长手工，准备一些便宜但有品位的珠宝。不管是哪种方法，在手边准备一些东西，随时给你的另一半一个惊喜，女孩们都爱发掘惊喜。

7. Be Happy and Assertive

快乐自信

As long as you’re smiling and assertive (without being bossy), you will be in control of your life. When you’re in control of your life, you’re able to assertively get whatever you want. If you want romance, go out and create it. Life is yours for the taking.

只要你保持微笑并且自信（不是专横独断），你就会主宰你自己的生活。只要你能主宰你自己的生活，那你就肯定可以得到你想要的。如果你渴望浪漫，那就走出去，制造浪漫。生活掌握在你手中。