The Supremes once sang You cant hurry love. As it turns out, scientists have determined its not advisable to hurry marriage either. Get the scoop on the best age to be wed.
We doubt you were shocked when Avril Lavigne announced she was splitting from her husband of three years. But while its tempting to assume the cause was her bratty persona or rocker lifestyle, comments from her friends suggested that something more universal was at play: She was only 21 when she tied the knot and later told pals that she realized shed been too young to make such a life-altering decision. Could fellow young celebrity divorces Reese Witherspoon, Kate Hudson, and Britney Spears have also hit the same age-related issue?
The Magic Number
There are practical reasons for the mid-20s dividing line, and most of them boil down to two biggies: education and money. Turns out, the more years of higher education a woman has under her belt on her wedding day, the lower the chances that shell get divorced ... and by 25, youre more likely to have earned a degree or two. Educated women tend to be more confident about who they are and less willing to settle for a man who doesnt meet their standards, explains Terri Orbuch, Ph.D., author of Five Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great.
Odds are that by 25 youre also supporting yourself, so theres less incentive for you to rush into marriage because youre seeking financial security from him. But the marriage-related benefits of working and having money of your own go beyond feeling secure, says Pepper Schwartz, Ph.D., author of Finding Your Perfect Match. Learning to budget your cash carefully when youre single will help you avoid financial problems one of the main causes of couple fights for the rest of your life. And juggling responsibilities, dealing with differing personalities, and resolving conflicts on the job force you to develop skills that are necessary for maintaining long-term love.
Knowing the Real You
At 25, youve had time for some crucial life experiences, including a relationship or two that may have improved your Mr. Right radar. Youve probably dated enough to have a better idea of what you dont want in a man, which makes it easier to know what you can live with and cant live without, says Orbuch.
Perhaps the most important aspect of waiting is that youll know what your goals and values really are, says Paul Coleman, Psy.D., author of The Complete Idiots Guide to Intimacy. While you dont want to marry someone just like you, marriage is a lot easier if you two share a similar outlook on life.
Twenty-four and already married to the man of your dreams? Dont worry: Many young marriages survive. But given the choice, you might consider putting off the big day until your mid-20s or later.
【内容简介】
文章第一句以歌词You cant hurry love开篇,接着解释了这句话的意思,并提出女人何时结婚最合适这一问题。
接着,作者以一些名人的婚姻为例,说明早婚可能会产生一些问题。然后,文章分析了女人结婚的两大现实理由:教育程度和金钱。并得出女人25岁以后自身条件更成熟,选择结婚也会更理智的结论。
接下来的部分,作者讲述了25岁以后女人逐渐获得的各种生活经验,并明白自身的目标和价值观。
最后,作者也考虑到早婚女性的感受,安慰她们早婚也是可以白头偕老的。
【词汇短语讲解】
①split v. 表示分离,分开。它的过去式和过去分词都是split。split from sb. 可表示与某人离婚。
②tie a knot 原意为打结。在英语俚语中,更常见的短语是tie the knot,表示结婚。
③boil down 表面面意思是煮浓,压缩,熬浓,引申义为归结为,精简。
④under ones belt 【习语】有哪方面经历或经验;赢得、获得某物
⑤settle for 对感到满足,勉强认可
⑥incentive 这个词既可作名词,也可作形容词。作名词时表示动机,刺激,鼓励;作形容词时表示刺激的,鼓励的。
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