大叔爱萝莉？看看男人对此如何解释

Women ask me all the time about what they're supposed to do about the men out there who say they only want younger women in their profiles.

女伴们常常问我，那些寻求交友对象的男性往往在自己的交友信息里注明，自己只接受年龄较小的女孩，这该怎么办呢？

I remember seeing it too but I never let it stop me from favoring a man and it shouldn't stop you either.

我记得自己也遇到过这种情况，不过它从不曾阻止我对一个男人倾心。同样它也不应该阻止你。

But the question has always intrigued me so I did a little research to find out more about why this is happening and whether or not it's true.

不过这个问题常常引起我的思考，我做了一番探究，想看看这一现象发生的原因是什么，是否真的存在这种情况。

I started with an old boyfriend of mine who is 11 years older than me.

先从这个说起，我曾有一个比我大11岁的男友。

He told me it was an ego thing. He felt like women who were younger would make him feel more youthful and keep him active.

他告诉我这是一种本我作怪的结果。他觉得年轻的女孩会让自己感到更年轻，让自己保持活力。

He and I were from completely different generations. Some of our values and views of life were different and that created conflict, which ultimately ended our love relationship.

他和我完全是不同年代的人。两人之间的价值观和人生观往往有很多差异，差异造成冲突，最后葬送了我们的爱情。

He now dates women whose ages are within five years of his.It turns out these women were not only great ... they also kept him on his toes, often outdoing him when it comes to activities.

现在他所交往的女性都是跟他的年龄差不了5岁的女人。他发现这些女性非常值得认可，不仅如此，她们也能让他保持活力，当他们一起举行游玩活动的时候，这些女性常常比他更有活力。

Next I went to my friend Ron who has taught me so much about men and what they are looking for.

接着，我曾去向我的朋友荣恩求教。他让我对异性，对男性追求的女子的类型有了更深刻的了解。

When I posed this question to him, he said men have this idea of what they want but most men still look at women their own age and will contact them regardless of age if they are attracted to their picture online.

当我向他提出这个问题的时候，他告诉我，男人们对自己想要什么样的伴侣往往心中有数，不过其实大多数男性还是会选择与自己同龄的女性，而且如果他们觉得对方在网上的照片很有魅力的话，无论对方芳龄为何，他们都会主动联系对方。

When he was dating, Ron would date women up to five years older than he was. His girlfriend now is about a year older than he is.

当他置身情场的时候，荣恩会选择年龄比自己年长不过5岁的女子。他现在的女朋友只比他大1岁。

He told me the problem is women post pictures that make them look old. (Sound familiar? Think of all the men you thought looked old enough to be your grandfather!)

他告诉我，这个问题的症结在于，女人们上传到网上的照片往往比她们本人看起来苍老。（听起来耳熟吗？想想那些你觉得看起来好像跟你爷爷差不多老的人吧！）

He said that alone stopped him from ever looking at a woman's profile regardless of her age.

他说，单单这一点就会让他决意不去关注这个女子的交友信息，不管对方实际的年龄为何。

But if a woman's look appealed to him, he'd view her profile and contact her if he liked what he saw.

可是，如果一个女子的面容让他觉得很有魅力，他就会去看对方的交友信息，如果他觉得感兴趣，就会联系她。

I've brought up this older man/younger woman subject a lot to more men and their answers are similar to what I've shared with you.

到现在为止，我已经向许多男人数次提过这个大叔爱萝莉的问题了，他们的回答都与上述我所说的意见相仿。

So what can you do to get these guys' attention in your profile?

你应该怎么让自己的交友信息能吸引异的注意呢？

You must have a fantastic picture that makes you look like you have great energy and are fun.

你必须有一张拍的非常好的照片，让自己看起来活力四射，充满乐趣。

Your profile has to trigger a man's heart to say, Hey, she might be the one. She sounds AMAZING!

你的信息要波动他的心弦，让他在心里说，噢，或许她就是我的真命天女。她的信息看起来真不错！

When you read your profile, does it make you sound amazing or is it a resume of who you are?

当你自己读读自己的交友信息，它会让你感到自己很棒，还是仅仅像简历一样介绍了一下自己呢。

And finally, you have to invite a man to write you without demands attached if he's interested.

最后，如果有异性对你产生了好感，你必须设法在不明令对方的情况下让他主动给你发消息。