15大信号 在我们身边的都是好朋友

An old saying goes, “Surround yourself with the people you want to be like.” Successful people want to surround themselves with successful people. Optimists like to be around optimists. How can you tell if you’re hanging around with the right group of friends for you? Here are 15 signs that you are surrounded by good friends who care about you and not just what you can do for them!

俗话说得好，“你想成为什么样的人，就和什么样的人待在一起。” 成功人士都想和成功人士待在一起。乐观主义者希望身边的人都是乐观主义者。你怎么能知道自己身边的朋友是适合自己的？下面的这15个信号能告诉你，不只是你关心朋友，身边的朋友也关心你。

1. Your friends listen to you

你的朋友倾听你

A good friend can tell when you need an ear, or just to take the floor for a few minutes and talk something out. More importantly still, they help you determine where you have good, solid, actionable ideas and where they think you’re a little off base.

好朋友能知道你什么时候需要倾听，或知道你只是需要几分钟，把一些话说出来。更重要的是，他们能帮你判断什么时候你的想法是好的、可靠的、可行的，什么时候你的想法是错误的。

2. Your friends care about you

你的朋友关心你

Good friends take the time to ask about your life, your interests, and your opinions. They also take the time to be there when you need them, and want to help you be the best person you can be.

好朋友会花时间去询问你的生活、你的兴趣和你的观点。他们在你需要的时候抽出时间陪着你，想帮助你，让你成为最棒的你。

3. Your friends know when to throw a party

你的朋友知道什么时候为你准备聚会

There’s nothing wrong with blowing off a little steam, celebrating a milestone, or just making an event happen “because.” A group of friends who are really in tune with your needs know exactly when and how to party without taking it to extremes or getting you involved with anything illegal or uncomfortable.

有时发泄一下放松放松、或为具有里程碑意义的事件庆祝一下、或没什么原因就庆祝一下没什么大不了。真正懂得你需要的朋友能明确知道什么时间组织、如何组织聚会而不过分，不会让你卷入不合法或不舒心的事情中。

4. Your friends know when to end a party

你的朋友知道何时该结束聚会

Even the best party has to end eventually, and good friends can tell when it’s time to leave. If someone’s getting drunk and belligerent, or you’ve been yawning for the last half hour, they will understand it’s time to call it a night and leave gracefully.

即使是最好的聚会也终会落幕，好朋友能知道该何时离开。如果有人醉了且好战，或最后的半小时你一直在打哈欠，他们会明白该结束了并优雅地离开。

5. You feel like your friends have your best interests at heart

你能感觉到朋友把你的利益挂在心上

You may not always agree with what your friends say or their perceptions of a situation. However, they’re always thinking of what’s best for you in the long run. This can be a tricky line to walk, and sometimes you have an obligation to ignore the advice of others. Nevertheless, a good friend will be less worried about sparing your feelings than looking out for you.

你可能不会总是同意朋友所说的话或朋友对问题的看法。然而从长远看，他们总是考虑如何做对你是最好的。这样做很微妙，有时你就该忽略他人的建议。然而，比起照顾你的情绪，好朋友会更多地为你着想。

6. Your friends support you

你的朋友支持你

Even when you do something your friends don’t agree with, if they’re really good friends, they will support whatever you decide to do, within reason. They may not agree or like what you’re doing, like moving across the country to snag a good-paying job, but they’ll be there with the pizza and beer while you load up the truck!

即使是你做了一些朋友不同意的事情，如果他们真的是你的好朋友，无论你做什么决定，只要在合理的范围内，他们都会支持你的。他们可能不同意或不喜欢你现在做的事情，比如在全国各地跑来跑去，去找一份高薪的工作，但是当你上了车后，他们会拿着比萨和啤酒在那里等着你。

7. You always hear the truth from them

你总是会从他们嘴里听到真相

Good friends don’t lie. (Except on rare occasions of the “Does this dress make me look fat?” sort. Those kinds of lies don’t count, because they are intended to spare your feelings.) When the chips are down and you really need to be told the truth, your friends may hate it…but they’ll do it. This applies in situations like when your friends tell you maybe you’re partying a little too much or working too hard. If they tell you something like this, they’re speaking from the heart. You owe it to them and your friendship to listen.

好朋友不会骗你。（除非是那种“这件衣服是不是让我看起来很胖？”这样偶尔出现的情况。这种谎言不算，因为他们是为了照顾你的感受。）当到了关键时刻，你真的需要知道真相时，你的朋友也许会讨厌那样做……但是他们还是会那样做。还有的时候你的朋友告诉你，你聚会的次数也许太多了或工作太卖力。如果他们对你说类似的话，他们是真心的。你要多谢他们并要认真倾听。

8. Your friends check in on you

你的朋友会经常联系你

A good friend cares about the people close to them. If they don’t hear from you periodically, they pick up the phone or even send an email. “Dude, where you at? Everything okay?” This doesn’t mean they constantly worry about you, because sometimes people get sick or busy and life happens. But they do take the time to let you know they’re thinking about you.

好朋友会关心和他们亲近的人。如果他们隔了一段时间没有你的消息，他们会拿起电话，甚至会发送电子邮件。“老兄，你在哪里？一切还好吗？” 这并不是说他们会一直担心你，因为有时人们会生病或忙碌起来，生活就是这样。但是他们会拿出时间让你知道他们在想你。

9. Your friends know when to leave you alone

你的朋友知道什么时候该让你独处

Sometimes you just want (or need) to be left alone. Work assignments, homework, or relationship woes can all leave you feeling like you just need a little downtime to work out your situation. A good friend understands and respects this. They’ll make it clear that they’re available if and when you need them, but they also understand that everyone needs alone time once in a while. Conversely, they also know you well enough to say, “Enough’s enough!” and drag you out of the house by your hair if necessary!

有时，你就是想（或需要）独处。工作任务、一些重要活动前的准备工作或关系裂痕都会让你觉得需要时间来想出如何对自己的情况进行处理。好朋友会理解并尊重这一点。他们会让你知道，当你需要他们的时候，他们会在你身边，但是他们也明白，每个人时不时地都需要时间独处。另一方面，他们也非常了解你，知道何时说 “够了！” 并在需要时拉着你的头发把你拖出屋子。

10. You don’t feel like you always have to reciprocate

你觉得自己不用总想着回报

A good friendship doesn’t come with a balance sheet. While you should always try to give as good as you get from your friends, that doesn’t mean you or they should feel obligated every single time. The point of a friendship is to be there as much as you can, when you can, to the fullest extent you can. Sometimes that means Jim picks up the beer, while you bring the pretzels. Sometimes Josh throws the party and you pitch in with the cleanup. Sooner or later in a good friendship, the books will balance naturally and intuitively, without either side having to do anything except be themselves.

好的友谊并不需要资产负债表。虽然说朋友对你怎么好，你就应该对他们怎么好，但这也不是说你或他们每次都要那样做。友谊的一大要点就是当可以的时候，尽可能地地付出。有时意味着吉姆拿啤酒，而你带来椒盐脆饼。有时乔希开派对，而你负责打扫。在好的友谊中，这迟早会自然地达到平衡，除了做好自己，不需要做任何事情。

11. You can call your friends anytime you need them

任何时候，只要你需要就可以给朋友打电话

Let’s put some rules on “anytime.” This does not mean three in the morning, unless someone is dead! Within reason, however, and during the hours when you KNOW they’ll be awake, you can call and say, “Hey…you got a few minutes? I need an ear.” If they say, “Not now, but let me call you back,” then respect that. If they’re willing to sacrifice time to help you out, it’s only fair that they should be able to do it on their schedule, especially for those who have “real jobs.”

关于“任何时候”有一些要注意的问题。这并不是说早晨三点钟你就可以打电话，除非有人去世！然而，在合理的情况下，在你知道他们会醒着的时候，你可以打电话给他们，说，“嗯……有空吗？我需要人听我倾诉。”如果他们说，“现在不行，但是让我给你打回去吧，”那么就等电话吧。如果他们愿意抽出时间来帮助你，那最好是按照他们的时间表来做，尤其是对那些有份“真正工作”的人而言。

12. Your friends feel like they can call you when they need you

你的朋友觉得，当他们需要你的时候可以给你打电话

Part of being a good friend is being available, and this applies just as much to you as it does your friends. A friend who feels like you’re available for them when needed is more likely to be there for you when you need them!

成为好朋友的一部分内容就是可以抽出时间，这适用于你的朋友，同时也适用于你。如果朋友觉得他们需要你的时候你能抽出时间，那么很有可能当你需要他们的时候，他们也能为你抽出时间。

13. Your friends celebrate your victories and help you get over your setbacks

你的朋友为你庆祝胜利，并帮你克服困难

Milestones deserve to be celebrated, and misery loves company. A good friend will congratulate you on your accomplishments and achievements without letting you rest on your laurels. Similarly, a good friend won’t let you wallow in self-pity when things go a little sideways. A good friend will celebrate or commiserate with you as appropriate, always asking the question, “So what’s next?”

具有里程碑意义的事件值得和他人一起庆祝，当你悲惨的时候也需要有人陪伴。好朋友会庆祝你的成就，不会让你固步自封。同样，当事情变遭时，好朋友也不会让你独自啜泣。好朋友会恰当地和你庆祝或与你分忧，并总会问，“下一步呢？”

14. Your friends see you for who you are

你的朋友知道真实的你

We all wear masks and put on a show in our public lives, whether we choose to admit it or not. A good friend sees beyond the mask or the front and looks at the real person behind them. You can tell a good friend because they’re not afraid to call you out on your front, but they still want to be around you even when what’s behind it isn’t always the nicest, kindest, or best person. A good friend inspires you to be and do better than you are, but cares for you because of who and what you are.

无论我们承认与否，在我们的公共生活中，我们都会戴上面具，表演给人看。好朋友能看透面具后真正的你。 好朋友不怕当面大声叫你，即使是你不总是最友好、最善良、最好的人， 他们也还是想和你在一起。朋友会激励你，让你变得更好，并在乎真正的你。

15. Your friends tell you when you’re making a mistake

当你犯错的时候朋友会告诉你

No one likes to hear it when they screw up. That’s just human nature. However, a true friend is able to tell you you’re making a mistake without making a federal case of it. People who love you and support you even when they don’t necessarily agree with you are the kind of friends that are worth keeping, no matter where life takes you.

当人们把事情搞砸时都不想听别人说。这是人类的天性。然而，当你犯错时，真正的朋友能告诉你，让你不要犯大错。好朋友不一定同意你的观点，但他们仍会爱你、支持你。无论你的生活如何，这样的朋友都是最值得维系的。