恋爱课堂：关于感情的10个小细节

In this self-centered world, it’s hard to keep a romantic relationship going strong. Break-ups happen often for no reason at all, or a reason that could have been overcome if only there was a will to do so. Sometimes, it’s the small things that keeps a couple together for a long time. Here are 10 little things that matter in every relationship.

在这个以自我为中心的时代，要想很好的维持一段恋情真不是那么简单的事情。分手有时根本不需要理由，就算有，也只不过是信手拈来的罢了。其实很多时候是一些小事得以将关系一直维持下去。下面是十件能促进关系发展的事情。

Say it!

说出来！

We mean the “I love you” sentence. If you feel it, say it. Take your significant other by the hands, look them deep into their eyes, and say it. A smile is sure to appear on their face. Three little words that can light up both your days and remind them of how much they are loved.

我指的是“我爱你”这句话。如果感受到了，那就说出来，牵着对方的手，看着他的眼睛说出来吧。他们一定会露出笑容。这样简单的三个字能让一整天都晴朗起来，告诉对方你到底有多爱TA吧。

Watch a romantic movie

看一场浪漫的电影

Simple but effective. There are plenty of romantic movies out there to see, but personally, I’d suggest you skip Hollywood movies and focus on European ones. Why? They are not Cinderella like, they have real-life situations and they can be pretty interesting.

简单有效的办法。爱情浪漫片真的是太多了，但个人来说，我建议你跳过好莱坞电影去欣赏一下欧洲电影吧。为什么呢？他们不是灰姑娘似的故事结构，有真实的生活作为背景，也会非常有趣。

Be silly together

俩人一起犯二

Letting your inhibitions go and being childlike is something that can easily be forgotten when you’re an adult and especially when you’re a couple. Being silly together shows that you are comfortable with each other, that you have embraced one another and could be a great reminder why you fell for each other in the first place. A couple who can laugh and play together is a happy one.

把那些拘谨都藏起来像孩子般去相处吧，忘记自己是个大人。俩人一起犯二说明互相在一起非常舒服，你非常喜欢TA，也可以提醒对方当初因为什么而相爱。能在一起大笑玩耍的才是好情侣呢。

Say thank you

说谢谢

It’s not hard to say thank you.

说谢谢不是难事。

But we don’t mean the default “thank you” such as when someone brings you a cup of coffee. We mean a “thank you” for the things that really matter. When they hold your hand through a crisis, when they lift you up when you fall, when they stay by your side when you’re ill. In those situations gratitude is rarely expressed with words, but can go a long way to make the other person feel special and cared for.

我们这里说的可不是那种别人帮你带一杯咖啡的官方“谢谢”，而是对真正重要的事情的一句“感谢”。他们陪你度过一次危机，或者在你摔倒的时候扶你一把，又或者是生病时对你悉心照顾。这些情况下真的很难用言语去表达感激，但你需要让对方知道他们的特殊性感受到你对他们的关心。

Compliments

赞美

Compliments are wonderful. It’s an instant lift when someone acknowledges you in a positive light, especially when it’s coming from someone you love. It shows that you’re noticed, appreciated and admired. Complimenting your partner on their looks, their personality, their positive spirit or whatever else you admire or love about them is something you can’t do too much of. It’s a small gesture that can make a huge, positive impact on your relationship.

赞美真的不可或缺。当有人持续给你积极的赞赏，特别是爱人的赞美，真是一种激励。这表示你是被关注，欣赏和膜拜的。夸夸对方的打扮，性格，他们积极的精神或者无论什么能吸引到你让你喜欢或者崇拜自己却做不到的地方。这种小举动能够大大促进你们的关系哦。

Do what the significant other enjoy

陪TA做TA喜欢做的事情

If he likes to watch sports, watch with him and cheer on his favorite team. Listen and take interest in what your partner likes to do, even if it’s not your personal favorite. In turn, when you want to do an activity that you enjoy, they’ll be open and willing to do it with you as well. Going outside of your comfort zone and sitting through an opera or ballet for the simple fact that she enjoys it, speaks volumes to your significant other. It’s a small gesture that shows you want to be with them and that you go out of your way to see them happy in their element.

如果他喜欢看球赛，那么就陪他一起看，为他支持的队伍加油。听听TA喜欢什么，自己也去培养兴趣吧，即使你不是很喜欢。同样，当你想做自己喜欢的事情时，他们也会陪着你哦。去舒服的地方，坐着看看歌剧或芭蕾，只要她喜欢就够了，同时也别忘记展现出你对事物的自信哦。这种小举动能显示出你乐于跟他们在一起，也愿意用他们的方式来哄他们开心。

Travel together

一起旅游

Did you know that some couples don’t travel together before their honeymoon? It may come as a big surprise to realize that you’re not comfortable traveling with each other after years and years of relationship, and that’s normal, but there’s a cure.

你知道有些人蜜月才是他们的第一次旅行么？所以要过好多年才知道原来你们不适合一起旅行哦。这很正常，也可以去矫正。

Start now. When you find yourself far away from the place you live in, you have only each other to rely on, you will spend more time together- just the two of you, and you will create memories. If you can’t afford a big vacation, try doing a ‘staycation’ and explore cities and sights around you that are nearby. Whether or not it turns out to be a great vacation, it will give you both a shared experience and something to talk about that will bring you closer.

现在就开始吧。找一个较远的目的地，你们只能互相依靠对方，你们要花大量的时间泡在一起-只有你们两个人，然后就创造美好回忆啦。如果请不了长假，试着来个城市旅行，遍访周遭的城市风景。无论旅行是否开心，都会让你们日后有拉进关系的共同经历和体验哦。

A little present goes a long way

小礼物大用途

It doesn’t have to be expensive or elaborate, in fact, it can be the simple act of getting them their favorite ice cream on the way home because you know they had a long, hard day at work. It’s not the present but the gesture and the thought that went into it that will be appreciated more so than the actual ‘thing’ you got them. Have they been talking about getting a certain book or waiting to see a certain movie? Buy that book when it comes out or make a date for the day the movie opens, not only will they be happy but they’ll know that you listen to them and you care.

不需要多贵重多精致，实际上，可以仅仅是在回家路上带一只他们喜欢的冰激凌来解除一天的工作疲乏。这不是礼物，但这个举动和想法本身就能比实际去准备礼物带来的感动更多呢。他们最近说了要买什么书或是等着去看什么电影么？等书上市的时候去买一本吧，或者在电影上映那天安排一个约会呀，他们不仅会喜出望外还会明白你的关心无处不在。

Cuddle

依偎

Cuddling is the best way to show that you love someone. Cuddling has this wonderful ability to soothe away the pain and calm you down. It works both ways. Not only will your partner feel relaxed, but you will shake off some of that everyday stress. And when it’s cold, you could keep each other warm.

依偎是表达爱意的最好办法。能有效缓解难过让你迅速安静下来。对两人都有好处哦，不仅仅他会觉得放松，你也会甩掉一天的包袱。天冷的时候你们还可以互相取暖呢，不是么。

Take their side in an argument

站在TA那边

This is more important than you think. You should always back your partner up when they are having a brawl, even if you think that they are not in the right. You must never leave them standing on their own in an argument. At the very least, you should try and bring the argument to an end. That way they will know that you have their back, that they can rely on you and that you love them. This is a little thing that makes a BIG difference.

这比你怎么想更加重要。当他们有了争吵的时候，要力挺一下哦，哪怕TA不一定是对的。你必须要让两个人保持在统一战线上。或者至少，你可以试着去停止这类争吵。他们也会知道你是支持他们的，他们可以依靠你，你是爱他们的。这种小事真的能起到很大的作用哦。