如何找寻自己的人生坐标

1. Get clear about what you want. A boat that wanders aimlessly never reaches the shore. You need to have some direction to help guide you along the way.

清楚地知道你想要的是什么。一艘漫无目地游荡的船永远也到不了彼岸。你需要一些方向去指引你前进。

2. Start small. Don't set yourself up for falling back into your old life. Start with the smallest action you can take today and just do that.

从小事开始做起。不要为陷入过去的生活埋下伏笔。刚开始的时候做些你当天力所能及的小事，然后重复性地去做这件事。

3. Focus on what not how. If you continually focus on how you are going to accomplish massive transitions in your life, you will never begin taking those small actions. Worrying about a future that will most likely never come to pass is a waste of both your time and energy. Put your focus where it matters most—what do you want for your life? Once you focus on the what, and start taking those small actions, the how will take care of itself.

关注于“什么”而不是“如何”。如果你继续关注于如何才能完成人生的巨大转变，你就永远也不会采取这些微小的行动。担忧一种未来几乎不可能成为现实既是对你时间的浪费，也是对你精力的浪费。把你的注意力放在关系重大的事情上......你想要你的生活是什么样子的？一旦你聚焦在那一点上，而且开始采取那些微小的行动，你就完全用不着为如何而倍感担忧了。

4. Don't think about how long it has been this way. It does not matter how long things have been this way in your life, today is the day that you can start to change. It just takes your unwavering commitment and one small action. Then repeat this step again tomorrow.

不要去想这样子已经持续多久了。一样事情在你生活中持续了多长时间并不重要，重要的是今天就是你开始改变的日子。那需要你的坚持不懈和一点点行动。然后明天继续重复这个步骤。

5. Create accountability for yourself. You need people who know and support your efforts to keep you on track in this process. You need accountability that tomorrow you are going to keep pushing forward. You need someone to help you see things in a different way, to call you out on your excuses, and to keep you going when you'd rather give up. Build yourself a support system, and let those who would question or undermine your efforts go along their way.

给自己设定一种问责制。你需要了解并支持你的人督促你跟上进度。你需要问责制让你明天能够更加努力。你需要有人帮助你从另一个角度看事情，让你从自己的借口中清醒过来，并且在你将要放弃的时候鼓励你去坚持。为你自己建立一个支持系统，并且让那些质疑你或不屑于你付出的努力的人走他自己的康庄大道去吧。

6. Don't give in to the negative self-talk. You are in control of your mind, not the other way around. Choose to look at things in a different perspective. Choose to keep your options open and your dreams alive. When the negative discussion starts, choose to be stronger than your thoughts.

不要陷入消极的心理暗示。你可以控制你的头脑，而不是它控制你。从另一面看待事情。保持一种开放的心态，让你的梦想指引你。当消极思想出现的时候，你要变得比它更坚强。

7. Open yourself to possibility. If you close yourself off to the world, you are going to miss a lot of amazing things. You need to create a sort of blank slate within yourself to begin reconstructing how you see the world.

相信万事皆由可能。你需要做的是为你自己准备一块空白的石板，在上面重建你所看到的世界。

8. Be willing to let things go. One of the biggest gifts you can give yourself in this process is freedom. By releasing the burden of your stuff, you will find that there is plenty of time and space to create the life you want to live. Focus on the number of commitments you have in your life, the things you feel that you have to do. Start thinking about all the stuff in your life, and what you can do to begin clearing it away.

愿意放手。在这个过程中你能给予你的最棒的礼物之一就是自由。通过缓解你身上的负担，你会发现那儿有充足的时间和足够的空间让你去创造你想要的生活。聚焦在你一生中曾许下的承诺，那些你感到你必须要去做的。开始思考你生活中的全部事情，为了把它清理干净你需要做什么。

9. Take care of yourself first. In the never-ending race we have created out of our lives, the first person we always neglect is ourselves. You can't wait for the world to quiet down before you start focusing on your own well-being. Keeping such a frantic pace only leaves you exhausted and not of much use to the people depending on you. To be of great service to others, you must first take care of yourself.

优先考虑到自己。在永不停息的竞争中我们为自己设定好了生活路线，我们忽略的第一个人往往是我们自己。你不可能等到这个世界安静下来，你才开始关注你自己的幸福。保持一种疯狂的步伐前进只会让你精疲力竭，而且对那些指望着你的人也没有好处。对他人有帮助，你必须先要照顾好自己。

10. Stop and reflect along the way. When you start implementing the first nine points on this list, you may find yourself caught in the momentum of change. Time passes quickly in our lives, and as we grow and change so too does our vision of the life we want to live. Make sure that you take time to simply reflect on what you have accomplished, where you are at right now, and where you are headed—then plan some small action steps for tomorrow.

沿途要住在停留和反省。当你开始施行上述9条建议时，你会发现自己已经开始在走向改变。人生匆匆，随着我们的成长，我们对自己渴望的生活方式的愿景也会改变。你要确信你会花时间反思你已经取得的成就，以及目前你处在哪里，还有你将走向何方......然后为明天的计划想好行动步骤。