如何让一个男人向你承诺

Be Decisive and Strong

果断且坚强

Sure, biologically guys are programmed to be in control. But this doesn't mean you should become his lap dog. Or that you rely on him to make every single decision. If he has to decide everything for you from where to eat to what to do next Saturday night, he'll become super bored, or worse, annoyed very quickly. He chose to be with you because of who you are. Keep being that strong, independent woman and watch as it draws him in deeper!

当然，从生物学角度看，男人天生就是掌控者。但这并不意味着你要当他的舔狗。也并不意味着你需要依赖他做每一个决定。如果他需要决定你的一切（包括去哪儿吃饭、下周六晚做什么等），他会超级无聊的，更甚者，不需要多久他就会变得不耐烦。他喜欢你最真实的样子。继续做一个坚强而又独立的女性吧，他会越陷越深的！

Keep Living YOUR Life

过自己的生活

Early on, it can be hard to resist spending every waking moment with your lover. But resist you must! Because even though he says he wants to be around you non-stop and do every little thing together, your man will miss and crave you more when you're not around.

恋爱初期，你几乎抵挡不住这样的诱惑：无时无刻都想和爱人腻在一起。但你必须拒绝！因为即便他说他想随时随地在你身边，想和你做每一件小时，但你不在身边的时候，他才会更想你。

You had your own exciting, adventurous life before he came along. Don't stop living it just because now he's in your life. Go grab a cocktail with the girls, take yoga three times a week or getaway over the weekend - he'll be begging to be with you when you get back.

遇见他之前，你的生活也很精彩呀。不要因为他进入了你的生活，而停止了以往的生活方式。和闺蜜们喝杯鸡尾酒、每周练3次瑜伽、周末去度假--当你回来时，他会求着你和他待在一起的。

Support Him

支持他

We all have dreams. But guys in particular are big dreamers. Whether your man is trying to start a business, going back to college, or becoming an EDM DJ, show some support for his dreams. Even if they seem totally unrealistic, shattering his dreams by putting them down is a sure-fire way he'll choose them over you.

我们都有梦想，尤其是男人，他们都是大梦想家。不管他是想创业、重读大学或是做一名电子舞DJ，你都要支持他们的梦想。即使这些梦想看上去不切实际，打击他却无疑会让他选择梦想放弃你。

Having you in his corner supporting him every step of the way is one of the deepest ways the two of you will connect. It's a building block of real long-term commitment. It shows you'll be by his side along the journey - a big psychological boost.

但如果在他追逐梦想的路上，你一直都支持着他，你们的感情肯定会越来越深。这是长期承诺的基石。这说明你会一直陪伴着他--无疑是心理安慰。

Show Gratitude

感恩

As you settle into life as a couple, it's easy to forget the little things like saying "thank you". But you'd be surprised how much this little show of appreciation does for commitment. Take a moment to say a small thank you, whether it's for cleaning up, picking up something from the store, or pulling your chair out for you.

你们已渐渐过得像对小夫妻了，这时候很容忘记一些小事，比方说"谢谢你"。但这种夸赞却会带来意想不到的承诺。对他说声谢谢吧，不管是因为他打扫了卫生、从商店买了东西还是为你拉了凳子。