But since the babys arrival, the sisters have become distant. Joan feels hurt that Sally seems completely uninterested in little Andrew. Sally, who had no children, claims that her younger sister acts as if no one ever had a baby before.
Neither Sally nor Joan understands that the sudden reversal in their family roles is the real cause of the current chill. Joan has finally outdone her dominant older sisterand Sally doesnt like it! Their distance may be temporary, but it shows that childhood rivalry isnt always outgrown. It can remain a strong ingredient in sibling relationships throughout life.
In a study at the University of Cincinnati, 65 men and women between ages 25 and 93 were asked how they felt about their brothers and sisters. Nearly 75 percent admitted harboring rivalrous feelings. In a few cases, these emotions were sufficiently intense to have affected their entire lives.
Many adult brothers and sisters are close, supportive and affectionateyet still need to compete. Two brothers I know turn into killers when on opposite sides of a tennis net. Off the court, they are the best of friends. My own younger sister never fails to tell me when Ive put on weight.. However, shes a terrible cook and that pleases me; I outdo myself when she comes to dinner. Happily, despite these small failings, we have been an important resource for one another.
In between the intensely rivalrous and the generally supportive siblings lie those who relate in an irritable manner that no friendship should survive. Some brothers and sisters stay at arms length, but always stop short ot ending ties completely. Why do these puzzling, unproductive, often painful relationships persist?
In part because the bonds forged in childhood remain powerful even after
siblings have grown up and gone their separate ways. These relationships are so intimate that the participants share a closeness unlike any other. But along with the affection contributing to that closeness, there is room for anger, jealousy and resentment.
Stephen Bank, a family therapist and co-author with Michael D. Kahn of The Sibling Bond, explains why: There are few adults who dont believe deep down that a sibling got more of something than they didparental love, advantages, brains, looks. It could be true, but it really doesnt matter. If, as adults, theyre successful enough to feel on an equal footing, siblings can give each other a great deal. If not, unresolved feelings can distort their relationships.
关于在五一的日记
中考英语考前必备--利弊型作文写作模板
我对考试的意见(My Views on Examinations)
玩电脑游戏的利与弊
我的卫士(My Guardsman)
要忍耐(to be patient)
英文便条写作方法
哈尔滨的水污染(Water pollution in Harbin)
明天又是新的一天(Tomorrow is a new day)
我的故乡(MY NATIVE TOWN)
我的父亲很温柔(My father is a gentle man)
我的表不走了(My Watch Doesn’t Work)
自传(Autobiography)
关于兴建造纸厂(On Building a Paper Factory)
体育运动的好处和坏处(Positive and Negative Aspects of Sports)
五一劳动节(The Holiday of Labors Day)
减肥之法(The Way of Losing Weight)
误送的留言条(A Note Wrongly Sent)
通知-NOTICE
最崇拜的人(Most admired people)
论交通安全(On Traffic Safety)
我最喜欢的花(My favorite flower)
孩子的独立教育
外出旅游(Go Out To Travel)
永远的朋友(forever friend)
我如何度过暑假(how i spent my summer vacation)
我心幕中的英雄(The Hero in My Heart)
化学老师(Chemistry Teacher)
孔子(Confucius)
默契的父亲(Tacit understanding father)
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