Love versus romance 爱情与浪漫

随身英语 Love versus romance 爱情与浪漫

Play audio file 有些人憧憬浪漫的邂逅和爱情，然而这或许只是一场过于美妙的梦—现实生活中真的存在理想般的爱情吗？或许这只是在电影里才能找到的幻想。如果你足够幸运，遇上了一生的挚爱，你们之间的恋情会长长久久吗？本集《随身英语》提出这样的命题：真正的浪漫是否已不复存在？还是从未出现过？

课文内容 Vocabulary: romance 词汇: 浪漫 Are you a hopeless romantic? Do you get excited by the idea of falling in love with the man or woman of your dreams? Does watching a romcom or a period drama on TV make you cry? Or are you someone who thinks romance is based on an idealised view of reality that doesn't really exist? Well, you could be right!

I'm no romantic and more of a realist – taking a more practical approach to love - maybe that's why I never had many girlfriends! But if you really are expecting the kind of love that makes your heart flutter with happiness you may be dissapointed.

Our expectation of what romance is, probably originated from the Romantic period - an artistic, literary, musical and intellectual movement that originated in Europe in the 18th Century. The notion of falling in love, getting married and living happily ever after were culturally held ideas formed during this period and still exist today. 

Of course there's nothing wrong with liking the idea of romance; it makes us feel good – but we must be careful not to use it as a benchmark for our own relationships. This idealised version of love leaves out the nitty-gritty of real-life relationships. There's usually work, finances and other stresses of everyday life to deal with. You can't expect romantic gestures like a bunch of red roses every day – there are bills to pay!

Many popular love stories end at the point where the characters get together or tie the knot. That puts the focus on finding someone special. But very few show us how to keep that perfect catch over a long period of time. A relationship is hard work. It’s frustrating, messy and can be emotionally damaging.

If you're still convinced romance isn't dead, how will you ever find it? Historian and TV presenter Lucy Worsley thinks nowadays, any idea of romance is dying because it has become "too easy" to meet new people via dating apps. She told the BBC the "slow exquisite torture of love in Jane Austen novels no longer existed in the age of Grindr and Tinder [apps]."

Perhaps romance is best left to the movies – a fantasy that makes us feel good – and instead concentrate on finding a good and healthy relationship with its ups and downs but one that is full of love. Do you believe romance really exists?

词汇表 a hopeless romantic 无可救药的浪漫派

romcom 浪漫爱情喜剧，多指影视节目

period drama 古装剧，历史剧

idealised 理想化的

realist 现实主义者，注重实际的人

makes your heart flutter 迷得你的心怦怦直跳

Romantic period （艺术）浪漫主义时期，源自十八世纪欧洲

intellectual 思想知识上的

notion 概念，观念

benchmark 衡量标准，参照

the nitty-gritty （口语表达）指（事情、问题的）实质，实际情况

romantic gestures 浪漫之举

tie the knot （口语表达）结婚

perfect catch 完美的、般配的恋爱对象

emotionally damaging 伤感情的

dating apps 约会应用软件

exquisite 甜蜜又让人痛苦的

fantasy 幻想

ups and downs 曲折起伏

测验与练习 1. 阅读课文并回答问题。

1. What expression does the writer use to mean your perfect partner?

2. Where did the Romantic period begin?

3. True or false: It's romantic to pay the bills with red roses.

4.What do popular love stories concentrate on?

5. Which word in the text means 'feeling annoyed and impatient because you can't achieve what you want to'?

2. 请你在不参考课文的情况下完成下列练习。选择一个意思合适的单词填入句子的空格处 。

1. Alan's been making the girls hearts ________ ever since he started college.

flatter       flitter       flutter       flap

2. Gita has an ________ view of her school days – at the time, she hated being there.

realised       idealised       exquisite       notion

3. The quality of his workmanship has set a _________ for other builders to follow.

bench       benchmark       benchmarks       markbench

4. He was a heavy smoker and died of lung cancer, which proves the ________ that smoking kills.

fantasy       movement       notion       nitty-gritty

5. We've been living together for years but only now I have persuaded my boyfriend to _________. 

tie knots       tie up knots       tied the knot       tie the knot

答案 1. 阅读课文并回答问题。

1. What expression does the writer use to mean your perfect partner?

The man/woman of you dreams.

2. Where did the Romantic period begin?

The Romantic period - an artistic, literary, musical and intellectual movement that originated in Europe in the 18th Century.

3. True or false: It's romantic to pay the bills with red roses.

False. It's romantic to give red roses to someone but impossible to pay the bills with them!

4.What do popular love stories concentrate on?

Many popular love stories put the focus on finding someone special, not what happens afterwards.

5. Which word in the text means 'feeling annoyed and impatient because you can't achieve what you want to'?

Frustrating. (A relationship is hard work. It’s frustrating, messy and can be emotionally damaging.)

2. 请你在不参考课文的情况下完成下列练习。选择一个意思合适的单词填入句子的空格处 。

1. Alan's been making the girls hearts flutter ever since he started college.

2. Gita has an idealised view of her school days – at the time, she hated being there.

3. The quality of his workmanship has set a benchmark for other builders to follow.

4. He was a heavy smoker and died of lung cancer, which proves the notion that smoking kills.

5. We've been living together for years but only now I have persuaded my boyfriend to tie the knot.