弄清自己想要什么很重要

很多人做事都会跟风，别人学英语、跳槽等等，就跟着去做，问他理由，自己也说不清楚，反正就是跟着别人那么做了。然而你是否想过，你要过的是自己的人生，而不是做别人的影子，copy别人的生活。其实，盲目跟风，究其根本，就是根本不知道自己想要什么！

A friend of mine wanted to lose some weight.

我有个朋友很想减肥。

He tried everything. He spent a whole day eating fish soup only.

尝试过很多方法，甚至一天就只喝鱼汤

Then he spent another day fasting. Then he started to skip breakfast. Then, for an afternoon he had fruit only. Then only rice, for 12 hours.

然后第二天节食、第三天开始不吃早餐、下午只吃水果，接下去时只吃米饭坚持12小时

But nothing would work. Big belly, small arms.

然并卵，大肚子小胳膊一直在。

“Why do you want to be skinnier?” I asked.

我曾问他为什么想变瘦。

“I don’t really know, it’s just better” he replied.

他回答说他也不知道，只是觉得瘦更好。

And then he only had salad for a day. And then a Chinese takeaway.

接下去他一天只吃沙拉，隔天只点了份中国菜外卖。

He didn’t know what he wanted, he only knew what he didn’t really want.

他不知道自己想要的，但他知道自己特别不想要的。

I like this quote from Lewis Carroll.

我很喜欢出自路易斯•卡罗尔这一席话。

One day Alice came to afork in the road and saw a Cheshire cat in a tree.

一天，爱丽丝走到分叉口，看到一只柴郡猫正在树上。

"Which road do I take?” she asked.

”我该走哪条路呢?”她问。

“Where do you want to go?” was his response.

“你想走哪条?”他反问。

“I don’t know.” Alice answered.

“我不知道。”爱丽丝回答。

“Then,” said the cat, “it doesn’t matter.”

“其实选哪条都不要紧。”猫回答。

Hard work is just a tool. But where do you actually want to go?

努力只是工具，重要的是知道自己想要什么。

希望大家都能想清楚，自己想要什么。