如何正视告别学校、毕业后的自己

毕业的时候，你踏出大学校门，迈出第一步，走进这个艰险的大世界，怎么说呢?有点点无所适从吧。

毕业之后的过渡期，很容易迷失自我、感到迷惘。

这里教你如何保持自信、相信自己，哪怕你踟蹰不前、要面临这个日新月异的新世界。

1、不要再觉得你应该无所不知

事情就是不确定的，企图斗争好比和一头怒熊抗衡、争夺鲜鱼。你只会精疲力竭、担惊受怕、身心俱碎。放松一点，明白世事无常乃常态。要知道，尽最大努力这种做法本身就是不错的回应。

2、两相权衡，游戏比成功重要

外在的成功来得容易、甚至可以说来得廉价。所以说，是通过游戏竞争、去参与你觉得开心和能带动你的事情， 去体验更多的成功，而不是去迎合外界带给你的期冀。

3、停止比较

如今，每次你与他人相较，你就有贬低自己、削弱自己效益的风险，甚至有自我膨胀的危险。比较无甚相关，唯一相关的是你做决策的能力。

When you graduate, taking your first steps out of College or University into the big, bad world is, how to put it...a little bit messed up.

In the post-graduation transition, it's easy to feel lost and confused.

So here's how to remain confident and trust yourself, even in the middle of all the uncertainty and change that this brave new world brings.

1. Stop feeling like you should have all the answers

Uncertainty is the way things are, and trying to fight is like trying to fight an angry bear with a wet fish. It’ll just leave you exhausted, scared and broken. So relax a little. Understand that uncertainty is natural, and know that doing your best is plenty good enough as a response.

2. Prioritise play over success

Extrinsic success is easy, cheap even. So it's through play—through engaging with the things that make you feel joy or connected and experience more success than fitting in with expectations will ever give you.

3. Stop comparing

Today, every time you compare yourself to someone else, you threaten to undermine your self and your efficacy, or inflate your ego. Comparison is irrelevant. The only thing that's relevant is your ability to approach a decision.