爱的秘密：让男神爱上你的20个套路(下)

11. BRING HIM A TREAT

给他一点小礼物

The old saying that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach isn’t just an old saying for no reason- it’s totally true! I always bake a little treat for a guy when I’m trying to make him fall in love with me, and then I just surprise him with it on a random day. When my husband and I were first dating, I left a bag of treats in his locker before every football game. He just loved it!

有话说得好，想要抓住男人的心，先要抓住男人的胃。这句话之所以经典并不是没有理由的——这句话说得太对了!当我想要让男生爱上我时，我总会给他烤一个小蛋糕，在随便哪一天出其不意地送给他。当我和我丈夫最初开始交往的时候，我会在每场足球赛之前在他的储物柜里放上一小袋吃的。他爱死这些东西了!

12. GIVE HIM FREEDOM

给他自由

When a guy’s trying to determine if you’re girlfriend material, he will test you a little bit. My advice at this point is to give him his freedom, and that will send him right back for more. In my experience, if any guy every got the impression that I’d try to tie him down, he’d be gone lightening fast. So, let your guy know that you value and respect his time with his friends, playing sports, or whatever it is he does in his spare time.

男生有时会测试一下女生，看看她是否适合做女朋友。我的建议是，给他一点自由的空间，这样他就会马上回到你的身边。根据我的经验来看，男生只要一开始觉得我想要束缚他，他就会飞也似地逃走。所以你要让男生知道他和朋友在一起的时，参加体育活动时，或是他想在闲暇时间做其他任何事时，你都会重视并且尊重他的想法。

13. LET HIM CALL YOU

让他给你打电话

When I’m trying to get a guy, I play a little hard to get. I don’t call him all the time, try to track him down, or generally make myself a bother. I want him to think that I’m too busy out there having agreat time to bother with him, and that he better get in touch with me quickly if he’s interested in sharing any time with me! Let him do the pursuing, and he’ll be much more interested in you.

当我想要得到一个男生的心时，我就会表现得让他觉得我很难到手。我不会一直打电话给他，不会试图知道他每时每刻在哪里，不会自己给自己添任何麻烦。我希望他觉得我太忙了，没时间理他，如果他对我还有意思就快点联系我。让男生来追你，这样他会对你更有兴趣。

14. PRACTICE MIRRORING STRATEGIES

模仿他的动作

Okay, this seems a little creepy at first, but just hear me out. Whenever I want to impress or charm someone (not just guys, but anyone), I do a little physical mirroring. What this means is taking whatever physical action that person does, waiting about five seconds, and then copying the motion. For instance, if your guy rests his elbow on the table, wait five seconds, and then put your elbow on the table. Sounds silly, but it works! It creates a connection between me and the guy that he just can’t explain.

好吧，乍听起来可能有点毛骨悚然，不过还是先听我说完吧。当我先要给别人留下印象或是吸引别人时(不只对男生，对所有人都如此)，我就会模仿他的身体动作。具体意思是：无论这个人做了什么动作，等五秒，然后重复一遍他的动作。比如说，你心仪的男生把手搁在桌子上，等五秒，然后你也把手放在桌子上。这听起来很傻，不过真的有用!这样我和那个男生之间产生了一种共鸣，而且他根本无法解释。

15. MAKE EYE CONTACT

眼神交流

Staring deeply into someone’s eyes quickly ramps up the intensity of the connection between two people. So, if I’m trying to get a guy to fall in love with me, I stare deeply into his eyes while we’re talking. Now, don’t look too long, or you’ll appear to be a stalker… but you definitely want extended eye contact.

直视别人的眼睛能迅速加强两人之间的联系。当我想要让男生爱上我时，我就会在谈话时只是他的眼睛。不过，不要盯太长时间，不然你会看起来像跟踪狂一样。眼神交流的时间长绝对是没有错的。

16. DON’T APPEAR DESPERATE

别显得太粘人

Guys aren’t attracted to desperate, clingy girls who seem like they can’t get anyone else. Guys are attracted to busy, happy, popular girls who seem like they’ve got it all under control and who have the world at their feet. Even if you think you aren’t popular, happy, or busy, try to appear that way to your guy. That means, don’t say yes if he asks you out last minute. Tell him you’ve got other plans, but you’d love to schedule something with him in a few days. Play hard to get!

男生不喜欢粘人的女生，这样感觉就好像这个女生找不到其他男人了一样。男生喜欢忙碌快乐、受人欢迎的女生，那种看起来能掌控一切、让全世界拜倒在她的石榴裙下的女生。就算你觉得你不是这样的女生，想办法让他觉得你是。也就是说，当他在最后一刻邀你出门时，不要答应他。告诉他你有别的计划，但是你很乐意过几天安排跟他出门。要欲擒故纵!

17. BE TRUSTWORTHY

值得信任

Guys love someone they can trust. I learned the hard way that telling my girlfriends every thing about a new guy in my life wasn’t the best idea. Word always gets back to the guy that I’ve talked about what he told me or told details about our time together, and he always bolts. Discretion is the best policy. Don’t tell your girls every little bit of your private conversations, and your guy will trust and respect you much more.

男生喜欢值得相信的人。把新男友的事一股脑儿全都告诉闺蜜可不是什么好主意，我曾经在这点上接受了深刻的教训。当我把男生和我一起时告诉我的事说给别人听，或是告诉别人我们在一起时的细节时，这些话最后总能传到他的耳朵里，他每次都很生气。说话前最好要谨慎。不要把你们私密的谈话中的每个细节都告诉你的闺蜜，这样男生就会更信任你，也更尊重你。

18. LEAVE A LITTLE MYSTERY

保持一点神秘感

When I am trying to attract a guy, I don’t want to be an open book to him. I’ve found that guys like a little mystery… they keep coming back for more if you leave more to find out. Think of your information, history, interests, etc. like a treasure hunt… give your guy little clues, but don’t let him find the treasure right away. He’ll want to keep calling and asking you out just to learn more about you!

当我想要吸引男生时，我不想让他把我的一切都看得清清楚楚。我发现，男生都喜欢带点神秘感的女生…...如果你总能让他们发现更多不为他们所知的你，男生就会想要回来更好地了解你。想着你有哪些信息，有什么样的历史，有什么爱好等等，这对男生来说就像寻宝一样，给他一点小提示，但是不要让他们一下就发现宝藏。他会想要不断地打电话给你，邀你出去——只是为了更好地了解你!

19. BE SUPPORTIVE OF HIS INTERESTS

支持他的兴趣爱好

Guys love it when girls show they’re interested in what guys are interested in. So, even if I hate his favorite sport, I’m going to watch it with him and discuss it with him to show a guy I’m both interested and interesting. When I dated a guy who loved basketball, I researched all about it so I could carry on a conversation with him, even though I hated basketball. When I dated a wrestler, I went to several matches to cheer him on, even though I think wrestling is boring. It will attract a guy if you show him you’re interested.

男生希望女生对他们感兴趣的东西有兴趣。所以，就算我很讨厌他最喜欢的那项运动，我也会跟他一起看比赛，跟他讨论这项运动，告诉他我对他有兴趣的东西也有兴趣。我曾经和一个喜欢篮球的男生约会，虽然我很讨厌篮球，但是我还是把跟篮球有关的事全都调查了一遍，这样我才能把话题继续下去。

20. HOLD OFF ON THE PHYSICAL INTIMACY

身体接触时保持点距离

My last tip has to do with physical intimacy, or making out, heavy petting, or sex. If you truly want to make a guy fall in love with you, you’ve got to hold out on stuff like this for as long as you can. Most guys I dated and are friends with just go after a girl for the thrill of the chase at first. It takes time for them to realize that they actually care about the girl. So, hold off on physical intimacy to give your relationship a chance to develop first.

我最后的建议和身体接触有关，或者说是亲热、爱抚、性。如果你真的想让一个男生爱上你，那么对于这些事你能保持多少距离就要保持多少距离。很多我交往过的男生只是想体验一下追女生最开始的新鲜刺激而已。他们要过一段时间才能意识到自己真的关心这个女生。所以在身体接触时保持一点距离，让你们的关系先逐步发展。