十个方法，让你快速挖掘你的个人特质

I Start with the small things. Take small steps and make small choices to gain confidence in your ability to make a decision. As you become secure in your ability to make good choices, you will gain confidence in yourself, and be more secure about your abilities in general.

从小事着手。认真做好每一件小事，收集点滴的自信，继而相信自己的能力，更好地驾驭自己。

2 Don't always try to please others. It is considerate to care about others' feelings but your needs are important also. Do not try to be like someone else either. You will be at your best when you are being yourself because of your uniqueness. Strive to be your best, do not criticize yourself if you fall short of your expectations.

不要试图讨好每一个人。关心他人的想法是好的，但是自己的需要更重要。不要试图去做别人，只要发挥自己的独特闪光点你才能做最好的自己。

3 Avoid negative people. People who have a negative attitude which may rub off on you are not good for you. If you're timid, loud and aggressive people are probably not good for you, and vice versa. Whatever you do, do not compare yourself to others. Just be the best that you can be.

减少和消极的人接触。他们的观点有可能会影响到你，如果你胆小，那么嗓门大的，咄咄逼人的人有可能不适合你。反过来也是一样。不要拿自己和别人比，你就是最好的你。

4.Face your fears and learn from your failures. We only fail when we do not make the best out of adversity. When something doesn't go the way we would like it to, there is something to be learned from that, which can be applied next time you are in a similar situation. Get up and try again.

正视失败并总结教训。我们失败是因为我们没有积极抵抗逆境，如果一件事和我们想的不一样，那么我们可以去好好总结，避免再出现这样的事。

5 Stop the negative thoughts. Try positive thinking on for size. The term “self-fulfilling prophecy” in relation to self-esteem basically states that whatever you believe about you, whether it be perfect or totally off base, becomes true. If you constantly tell yourself you are stupid or that you will never achieve success, you will in turn act as such. So, make a habit out of saying positive things about yourself and use the self-fulfilling prophecy to your advantage. Look in a mirror and see the good things such as if you have big brown eyes say "Wow I have big cute brown eyes!" or "My freckles are so cute!"

抛开负面想法。积极的思考。相信你自己是最好的最棒的最独特的，结果你就是最独特的。

6 Improve your self confidence. You can do this by simply doing things that you make you feel good, like accomplishing something. Accomplishment is the key ingredient to gaining self confidence. Just do it, don't worry about making mistakes. We all make mistakes.

增强自信心。你可以通过做一些让自己有成就感的事，比如完成一件事。做好一件事是增强自信心的主要方法。

7 Do something to impress yourself. Volunteer at a homeless shelter or vet's office. Be a Big Brother or Sister. Help someone else. Nothing makes you feel better about yourself than seeing how your help can make someone else's load a little lighter. Take a class, study hard, and pass - learn something useful or interesting. It could be photography, oil painting, a literature appreciation class, or beginning guitar. Do a daring feat: bungee jump off a bridge, skydive, go hang gliding (all with a guide, of course). Accomplishment raises self-esteem by raising self confidence.

做一些有意义的事情。帮助流浪者或者兽医的志愿者。做一个大哥哥或大姐姐，试着去帮助他人。

8 Don't worry about being "perfect." Aiming for perfection in life is a lost cause because it is different things to different people. Nobody is perfect in the eyes of everyone else, so by trying to be perfect you may just be setting yourself up for disappointment and failure. Instead, seek to achieve goals. For example, take a class in the visual arts. The visual arts allow you to explore yourself and find "perfection" in "imperfections". This self exploration, artistic knowledge, and the accomplishment of finishing the class can do wonders for your self-esteem.

不要迷信“完美”。因为完美的定义是因人而异的，没有一个人在所有人的眼中都是完美的，更甚者，一味地追求所谓的完美只会让你感觉挫败和失落。

9 Learn to appreciate yourself. Everyone has strengths, weaknesses, habits, and principles that define who you are and can make you distinctive. Spend more time focusing on the qualities about yourself that you like and less on the ones that you dislike. You can better accomplish this by taking up hobbies and projects that you can do that will make use of your strengths. Additionally, by starting on some projects that emphasize your good traits, it will keep you busy so you will end up spending less time thinking about your weaknesses.

试着欣赏自己。每个人都有自己的长处和短处，自己的习惯和原则，这些就是你区别于他人的地方。所以，多一些时间去挖掘与欣赏你自己的特质，而不要去寻找别人的短处。

10 Reward yourself when you succeed. Bask in the glow of your successes. You deserve to have your dreams, and you can make them come true. Believe in yourself completely, and others will also believe and trust in you. When you accomplish something always treat yourself to something wonderful.

成功的时候，打赏自己。你应该有自己的梦想，将它们实现。相信自己，别人就会相信你，当你成功的时候，记得好好犒劳自己。