心灵鸡汤: 人生只有一次, 如何找到目标

Your job is important and part of what defines you as who you are. However, in order to be truly successful in life you need to be balanced. After fifteen years in the Information Technology industry, I have learned a few lessons that have helped me maintain my sanity at work. 你的工作很重要，它是你所扮演的角色定义的一部分。但是，要想真正取得成功，你需要平衡你的生活。在信息技术行业工作十五年之后，我学到了一些经验，帮助我保持工作中的理智。

Hobbies 爱好

Key for me has always been to have hobbies and interests out side of work. It doesnt matter what you do, but you need time away from your work, time away from your family and time that is strictly yours for enjoyment. This blog for example is one of my new hobbies and a way to stretch my mind. For others it might be some board game or even something like Geocaching (Ties into the active life I talk about below). Without hobbies, or at least a time to decompress, I feel that by the end of the week Im dead and no use to my family all weekend long. 工作之余的爱好和兴趣对我来说很重要。做什么并不重要，关键是你拥有完全属于自己享受的时间，不去想工作和家庭。举个例子，这个博客就是我的新爱好之一，用来表达自己的想法。还有一些游戏或甚至像Geocaching(我下面将谈到的户外运动)。没有爱好，或者解压的时间，我想在周末时我已经精疲力尽，没有什么可以带给家人。

Family 家庭

Put family first... This doesnt mean to be a clock watcher at work, but make sure that you leave your work at work and make time for your family. I have kids and I make sure Im there for supper almost every night. Make sure that you spend time with your wife, husband, significant other (And watching TV doesnt count). My life overall runs a lot better when I make sure I give time to my wife and kids. 把家庭放在首位这并不是指工作时一味想着回家的时间，但一定要抽出时间给家人。我有孩子，我几乎每天都和他们一起吃晚餐。记得多陪陪你的妻子、丈夫和其他重要家人(仅看电视是不行的)。我只要有时间和妻子孩子在一起，我的生活总体感觉还不错。

Active life 户外运动

This is my #1. If I dont run, play soccer, rock climb or do something active, I tend to be grumpy and irritable. This is the way I deal with my stress, this is not only something that makes me feel good, but it means that when Im at work, I can focus on work. 这是我的最爱。如果我不跑步、踢足球、攀岩或其它运动，我的脾气就会很暴躁。这是我舒缓压力的方式，这并不只是让我感觉良好，而且让我能集中精力工作。

Take time a few times a week, look at what is offered in your area and go for it. If you cant find anything, consider running. Running is easy to get started and cheap... You can also do it anywhere in the world. Ive traveled quite a bit in life and running is something that you can do no matter where you are (Sometimes it can be hard to find the motivation when its below 25C and you need the right gear, but you still can do it). 一周几次，就近取材。如果找不到合适的，考虑跑步。跑步不择场地，且成本不高，可是在世界上任何地方随时开始。我一生中旅行过很多次，跑步是不论在任何地方都能做到的(当气温低于25摄氏度时你会觉得没有动力，但是你还是可以做的)。

Time for personal reflection 个人反思的时间

Personal reflection means that I take time for myself, make sure my life is where I want it to be, and if it isnt, to think about how I can get it to where I need it to be. I know this sounds cliche, but we only have one life to live and I feel like Id better not waste mine. I love my work, my family and the experiences I have had in my life and taking the time to reflect makes me feel like all those goals I havent reached yet are attainable if I stay focused and on course. 个人反思意味着我为自己花时间来确保生活是按照我想要的方式运行的。如不是，想想怎样才能达到我的目标。我知道这听着很老套，但是我们的人生只有一次，我们最好不要浪费时间。我爱我的工作，我的家庭，以及我的人生经历，花时间反思让我明白如果我继续关注并努力，那些尚未达到的目标是可行的。