As parents, they usually choose to make some sacrifice so that their children can have a better future. Especially Chinese parents, they sacrifice so much and put all the hope on the offspring. But according to the research, their over sacrifice won't make both children and themselves happy.
父母通常会选择做一些牺牲,这样孩子才可以拥有更好的未来。特别是中国的父母,他们牺牲很多,把所有的希望寄托在后代身上。但根据调查,他们的过度牺牲不会让孩子也不会让自己感到快乐。
For parents, they give up a lot of things that they want to do to reach the desire that their children to realize their dreams instead. So they have the high expectation for their children and once the children let them down, they will feel disappointed or just push a lot of pressure on them. For children, they keep their parents’ words and they are easy to feel guilty if they can't fulfill parents’ expectation.
对于父母来说,他们放弃了很多自己想做的事情来希望自己的孩子能帮他们实现他们的梦想。所以他们对自己的小孩有很高的期望,一旦孩子们让他们失望了,他们就会觉得受挫或者给予孩子们更大的压力。对于孩子来说,他们铭记着父母的话语,如果他们无法满足父母的期望,他们也会很容易感到内疚。
Chinese parents’ over sacrifice will not please anyone. Both sides will feel depressed. Being a parent doesn't mean to give up their dreams, and everyone has the right to chase their dreams and should not give up. It is everybody's duty to set the good example to the children and show the positive attitude to life. Children should be given more freedom to develop their talents.
中国父母的牺牲并不会取悦任何人,反而让双方都感到沮丧。为人父母并不意味着要放弃自己的梦想,每个人都有权利去追逐自己的梦想,不放弃。给孩子树立好榜样,表现出积极的生活态度是每个父母的责任。孩子们应该被给予更多的自由来发展才能。