2012年我们犯下的12个错误，明年一定不犯了（双语）

As long as the world is turning, you’re going to be dizzy and you’re going to make mistakes. And that’s okay. Your past mistakes can teach you what you need to know to create a wonderful future.

只要世界照常运转，你就有晕晕乎乎的时候，就会犯错。没关系，过去的错误会教你如何创造美好的未来。

Here are twelve big mistakes you (likely) made this year and what you need to know going forward.

下面是你今年可能犯的12大错误，还有你需要了解的接下来该怎么做：

1. You didn’t accept enough risk.

没有接受足够的风险。

Living is risky business. Every decision, every interaction, every step, every time you get out of bed in the morning, you take a risk. To truly live is to know you’re getting up and taking that risk. To not get out of bed, clutching to illusions of safety, is to die slowly without ever having truly lived. Be a little risky and realize the full potential of your life.

活着是需要冒险的。你做出的每个决定、每次互动、每个步骤、你每天早晨起床的时候，都在冒险。要想真正的生活，就要迎面面对风险。不想起床，紧紧抓住那幻想中的安全，这样会慢慢死去而不会体验到真正的生活。冒点儿险，充分发挥生活的潜力。

2. You gave in to your fears and negativity.

在恐惧和负面情绪前却步。

The reality is we all get afraid. It’s not about being afraid but what you do when you feel that way. When you feel doubt, or fear, or anger, or frustration, know that you can let it go just as surely as you can pull your hand away from a flame. Keep your life focused on the goodness, on the possibilities and on your most treasured dreams. What begins in your mind ends up in your life. Think continually of the way you would like to be, let these thoughts drive your actions, and your reality will reliably catch up to your thinking.

现实是我们都会害怕。害怕没关系，重要的是当你害怕时你会做什么。当你觉得怀疑、害怕、愤怒或沮丧时， 告诉自己你可以把这些情绪释放掉，就像你可以把手从火焰边抽回一样。多关注生活中美好的事物、机遇以及最珍视的梦想。有所想才会有所得。经常想一下你想变成什么样子， 让思想驱动行为，现实会跟上你的想法。

3. You let uncertainty paralyze you.

不确定性将你击溃。

As time goes on, you’ll understand: what lasts, lasts; what doesn’t, doesn’t. Time solves most things, and what time can’t solve, you’ll learn to solve yourself. Sometimes you’ll not be able to see where you are going in life, clearly. But know that your soul’s inner GPS will guide you home. You will find that you will be the right person, at the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing on point. Trust your intuition. Relax. You know what to do.

随着时间的流逝，你会明白：命里有时终须有，命里无时莫强求。时间会解决大部分问题，剩下的时间解决不了，你要学着自己去解决。有时你无法看清生活的方向，但是你灵魂深处的导航会指引你回家。你会发现你就是那个对的人，在正确的时间、正确的地点做正确的事情。相信自己的直觉。放松。你会知道该做什么。

4. You did what everyone else wanted you to do.

你做了别人想让你做的事。

Life is too short to spend all your time trying to make everyone else happy. Besides, it’s impossible to please everyone all the time. Make choices that take your mind, body, and soul into consideration. You are the only person who knows what’s best for you. It’s impossible for anyone else to know. No matter how much you share with them, they are not connected to your deepest desires, intuition, or hopes and dreams. Always, ALWAYS listen to yourself and what you want first.

人生苦短，不要把你的时间都用来取悦别人。另外，你也不可能一直让所有人都高兴。做决定时想想自己的思想、身体和灵魂。只有你自己才知道如何做对你来说是最好的。别人不可能知道。无论你和他们分享了多少，他们都不可能触及到你最深处的愿望、直觉、希望和梦想。一定要听从自己的内心，想想自己想要什么。

5. You were far busier than you were productive.

工作忙碌但效率低。

All work is not created equal. Try working with mindful awareness of the type of work you’re doing and how it’s helping (or limiting) your progress. Focus on the reason for doing what you’re doing, the deepest reason you can find within yourself. This steady self-awareness will keep you focused as long as necessary on the right activities that bring you closer to your goals.

工作并不是平等的。工作时要意识到你的工作类型，以及它是在帮助(还是阻碍)你的进步。关注自己为何工作，在自己身上找到最深切的原因。这种自我意识能够让你集中在正确的活动中，能让你离目标更近。

6. You didn’t practice enough.

你还练得不够。

If I were to write a book entitled, “How to Be Amazing at Anything”, it would only contain a single page with one word on it: “Practice!” Because that’s all it takes to be amazing. Whether it means learning to write by practicing writing or learning to live by practicing living, the principles are identical. In each instance, it is the relentless routine of a precise set of actions, physical and intellectual, focused on a desired result. Practice means to perform, over and over again in the face of all obstacles, some act of vision, faith, or desire. Practice is a means of inventing an amazing outcome.

如果我要写一本书，取名为《如何精通万物》，那么书里面会只有一页，这一页上只有一个词：“练习!”只有它才会让你出色。无论你是想通过练习写作来学会写作，或是通过练习生活来学会生活，原则都是一样的。在每种情况下，都是坚持不懈地进行一系列例行活动，身体行动或是心理活动，并把注意力集中在想要的结果上。练习意味着在面对各种各样的困难下，反复进行一些和理想、信仰或愿望相关的行为。练习是一种手段，它能让结果令人惊叹。

7. You let little bits of stress consume you.

压力一点点地消耗着你。

Don’t get stuck on the one thing that ruins your day. Don’t waste your time on one unhappy thought. If one window of happiness closes, run to the next window, or break through a wall. A dose of stress is a great entry point for you to pick up your head and say, “I’m only going to go through this once. I’ve got to figure out how to live my life in a positive and joyful way.” You must learn to let it go.

不要太过拘泥于一件事上，让它把你的一天都毁掉了。不要把时间浪费在不开心的思想上。如果通往快乐的一扇窗户关闭了，跑到下一扇窗前，或打破一堵墙。面对压力，你应该抬起头来说：“我只想经历这一次。我得想出来如何积极快乐的生活。” 你必须学会放手。

8. You let the same people drain you over and over again.

让同样的人一次又一次地榨干你。

People inspire you, or they drain you; choose them wisely. Don’t lose your dignity and self-respect trying to make someone accept, love and appreciate you when they have proven that they are incapable of doing so. If someone or something in life is meant for you, you will still have to work for it, but you won’t have to beg for it. You will never have to sacrifice your dignity for your destiny.

有的人能激励你，有的人能榨干你;要聪明地进行选择。在想让他人接受、爱或欣赏你时，不要丢掉自己的自尊、自敬，因为有些人无论你怎么做，他们都不会改变对你的态度。如果有些人或有些事对你来说很重要，你仍要去争取，但是不能去乞求。永远也不要牺牲自己的尊严来换取命运。

9. You set unrealistic expectations.

你设立了不现实的期望。

There are always two ways to be happier: improve your reality, or lower your expectations. We’re wired to expect the world to be brighter and more meaningful and more obviously interesting than it actually is. And when we realize that it isn’t, we start looking around for the real world. But this is the real world, and it’s actually a beautiful place to be. We are our own worst enemies for expecting otherwise. If you can learn to stop expecting impossible perfection, in yourself, others and the world around you, you may find the happiness that has always eluded you.

总有两种方法会让你更加开心：改善现实或降低希望。我们天生就希望世界会更明亮、更有意义，比现实更有趣。当我们意识到现实并不像期望的那么好时，我们开始四处寻找真实的世界。但是实际上我们现实的世界是非常美丽的地方。在期待时，我们是自己最大的敌人。如果你能学会停止期望你自己、他人、身边的世界上出现那不可能的完美，你会发现快乐总是环绕在你周围。

10. You overlooked the beauty of small moments.

你忽略了生活中美丽的小瞬间。

Whatever you’re waiting for – peace of mind, contentment, grace, an inner awareness of abundance – it will surely come to you, but only when you’re ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart. So be as grateful as possible, for small things, not just for big things… for the simple act of breathing, the time together, the conversations, etc. Every moment counts. Every second matters. Whatever is given is a gift.

无论你在期待什么，平静的心情、满足感、优雅、丰富的内在，这些都会来的，但是只会当你准备好以开放和感激的心情接受时才会到来。所以尽可能的心存感激吧，为生活中的小事，而不仅仅是因为大事……为像呼吸、在一起度过时光、谈话等这样简单的行为而心存感激吧。每个时刻、每一秒都很重要。你所收到的都是礼物。

11. You didn’t focus enough energy inward.

你没有足够关注内心的能量。

Even when you’re with others, you’re still with yourself. When you wake up in the morning, you’re with yourself, laying in bed at night you’re with yourself, walking down the street at noon you’re with yourself. What kind of person do you want to walk down the street with? What kind of person do you want to wake up in the morning with? What kind of person do you want to see at the end of the day before you fall asleep? It’s your responsibility to be the person you want to be with.

即使和他人在一起，你仍然和你自己在一起。当你在早晨起床时，你和自己在一起，当晚上你躺着床上时，你和自己在一起，当你中午在街上走路时，你和自己在一起。当你走在大街上，你想和什么样的人在一起?当你起床时，你想和什么样的人在一起?在你入睡前，你想和什么样的人在一起?成为你想成为的人，是你自己的责任。

12. You were hoping to make fewer mistakes.

你希望少犯些错误。

You aren’t really free until you give yourself the freedom to make mistakes. Liberate yourself! Try new things, learn and explore freely. Your good judgment comes from life experience, and life experience comes from your bad judgments of the past. You need to have sufficient courage to make mistakes. Disappointment and defeat are the tools life uses to show you the way.

直到你能允许自己犯错时，你才能得到真正的自由。解放自己!尝试新的事物，自由地学习和探索。良好的判断来自于经验，而生活经验来自于过去你所做的错误判断。你需要有足够的勇气去犯错。失望和失败是生活用来磨砺你的工具。

And remember, all your mistakes from this past year are now just lessons learned. Appreciate what you’ve learned, absorb the energy and possibility of today, and look forward to the year ahead.

记住，过去的一年你所犯过的错误现在对你来说是学到的教训。欣赏你所学到的，吸收今天的能量和潜力，期待着新一年的到来吧。