美文赏析:真正的尊重要靠努力换来

OK, I wasn’t fired but this is how it went.

好吧，我不是被炒鱿鱼了，事情是这样的。

Back in 2005, I had just started working and was almost at my peak of being a ladies man (or so i thought). Always spotted with a different girl (or so people perceived). I was an associate and kinda developed a crush on this manager. She seemed nice and the usual.

2005年的时候，我刚开始工作，当时是我作为大众情人的巅峰时期（至少我是这么想的）。人们总是看见我和不同的女孩在一起（至少他们是这么想的）。我当时是个准合伙人，并且有点暗恋我的经理。她则表现得很友好、很正常。

Long story short I asked her out and it worked. (Story for another day).

长话短说，我约她出去了，而且成功了。（详细故事改天讲）

We seemed to be pretty fond of each other and hung out quite a lot. In and out of office. Later on, during one of her 1-on-1s with her manager, he suggested her to stop hanging out with me. You know ‘perception is reality’ kinda stuff. That hanging out with a younger and reckless guy like me would be a career liming move for her.

我们互相挺喜欢的，经常在一起，不管是在工作中还是工作外。后来，再一次她和她的经历单独面谈的时候，她的经理暗示她不要在和我呆在一起了。你们懂的，“三人成虎”一类的事。和我这么一个愣头青搅在一起，可能会把她的整个事业给搅黄了。

She didn’t listen and shared this with me right after her meeting. And of course I felt bad. But not hurt.

不过她没听，还在会议结束后把这件事告诉了我。

We dated for a while and eventually broke up. For some other reasons. Mostly petty.

我们还是继续约会了一段时间，但是最后分手了。不过，是因为其他一些原因。挺遗憾的。

Fast forward 11 years, I join a new company as a Sr. Manager and word kinda spread about me. Mostly superficial- based on my looks and age.

11年过去之后，我以高级经理的角色加入了一家新公司，结果身边出现了各种关于我的流言蜚语。主要就是些关于我外貌和年龄的话。

By the end of first week, a guy walks up to my cabin and greets me with a ‘bhai’ after my name. I look at him baffled. It’s the same manager who my ex reported to all those years ago. We shake hands and talk for a while.

第一周快结束的时候，一个人走进了我的办公室，他叫我名字的时候还在后面加了个“伙计”（巴基斯坦话）。我不解地看了过去，发现他正式那好几年前我前女友的上司。我们握了手，然后谈了好一会儿。

He then said ‘You have now become my manager. You have come a long way.’

然后他说：“你现在已经变成我的经理了。你这进步够大的。”

It was quite a moment. Mixed emotions. But I was proud of myself more than anything. Proud that I worked hard and earned my respect.

这真是神奇的一刻。百感交集。不过我挺为自己感到自豪的，因为我用自己的努力换来了尊重。