7条可改变人生的建议

为大家推荐7条可能改变人生的建议。

1. It’s OK to do things twice. In fact, plan on it.

把事情做两遍也是可以的。其实就是有所规划。

The added benefit to this strategy is that you are constantly giving yourself a second chance. That’s a very relaxing way to live. So plan to do everything twice, as if it’s part of the process. But if by chance you do get it right the first time — bingo! You’ve won the time lottery for the day.

这项策略的额外收益就是你可以时常给自己一个重新开始的机会。这是一种很放松的生活方式。所以每件事都计划着做两遍，就好像这就是过程的一部分一样。然而，如果你碰巧一次就做好了，嘿!你中了当天的时间彩票。

2. Seek to connect, not to impress.

试着去联系，而不是去给人以深刻印象。

“Seek to connect” is good advice whether you are dating, job hunting, out with friends, spending time with your children. It doesn’t mean that it has to be all about them, either. That isn’t connection. It’s about the back and forth, and the mutual understanding. I guarantee, it’s better than impressive.

无论你是在约会、找工作、和朋友一起出去玩还是和孩子呆在一起，“试着与他们联系起来”都是不错的建议。这并不意味着一切都得围着他们转，这也不是联系。联系是有来有往、互相理解。我保证，这比引人瞩目更好。

3. Don’t be the person looking for a job. Be the person doing something interesting.

不要做一个寻找工作的人，去做一个做事有趣的人。

The best way to get a job is to get a referral from someone who has no vested interest in you getting the job, but has simply seen you doing amazing things. What are you accomplishing? What are you creating? What are you doing that no other applicant is doing? Spend part of your day doing those things, and opportunities will start to find you.

要获得一份工作最好的方法就是得到某个人的推荐，而这个人在你得到这份工作后并不会有什么既得利益，只是因为他/她觉得你能做出令人惊讶的成果。你有什么作为?你在创作什么?你做了哪些其他申请人没有做的事情?花上部分时间去做这些事情，机遇就会去找你。

4. Anxiety is when the voices in your head are worried about the future. Depression is when the voices inside your heart are worried about the past. Peace of mind is when those two voices stop talking to each other.

当你脑海中的声音在为未来担忧的时候，你焦虑不安;而当你内心深处的声音在担忧过去的时候，你意志消沉;当这两种声音都不再相互交谈的时候，你心如止水。

Be happy with what you have, or change what you want to change. Peace of mind actually becomes a way to shape your future.

对你所拥有的事物感到满意，或是为你想要改变的事情去做出改变。心如止水实际上成为了一种引领未来的方法。

5. If you want self-esteem, go out and do something esteemable.

如果你想要自尊，那就走出去，做一些让别人钦佩的事。

Go out and do something esteemable. It can be anything. Don’t know where to start? See #1 above.

走出去，做一些让别人钦佩的事，它可以是任何事。不知道从哪里开始?去看看上面的第一条建议吧。

6. This is life.

这就是生活。

Life is the reality of you, living in a world you are not really the center of. And as part of the life, you have a choice, every minute of every day — about what to do and how to think. More specifically, you have a choice about what to think about. What to notice. What to give your attention to.

生活中的现实就是你生活在一个世界上，而你却算不上那里的中心。生活的一部分就是你每一天时时刻刻都可以选择该做什么，要如何思考。再具体一点就是，你可以选择要考虑些什么，要注意些什么，要关注些什么。

7. Start somewhere, start anywhere.

从某处开始，随时随地开始。

I used to think you always had to start at the beginning. A lot of people say, “I don’t know where to start.” When I’m faced with a task that seems daunting, I simply divide it into as many actions as I can. Start with those. Even if it’s not the beginning.

我过去常常会想你总是要从头开始的。许多人说，“我不知道从哪里开始。”当我面临一项似乎令人生畏的任务的时候，我就会尽可能地把它分割成自己可以掌控的多个活动。然后从这些活动开始。即使那并不是开端。