你的他对你的爱，是一时的还是一世的?(上)

When you meet the right guy, you’ll just know it, right? That’s what we’ve always been told. Somehow, some way, we’ll meet a guy, and it’ll just “click” for us. We’ll be completely sure we’ve found our soul mate.

当你遇到那个“对的人”，你自然而然会知道的，对吧?这就是别人一直告诉我们的：某一天、某种场合，你总会遇到那个一拍即合的另一半，而你非常确信他就是你的灵魂伴侣。

If that were the case, wouldn’t finding a husband be really easy? Wouldn’t we be able to avoid heartbreak and bad relationships because we’d automatically know in our gut this guy was or wasn’t the one for us?

如果真是这样，那么找到你的丈夫岂不是太容易了?如果我们凭直觉就能知道这个男人是不是适合自己，那岂不是可以避免分手的心碎和烂桃花的烦恼?

Sometimes, it’s not all so cut and dry. It’s very confusing to know if your boyfriend is going to be THE boyfriend. What if your feelings just haven’t gotten there yet? What if you dump this guy and end up regretting it?

有时，不是所有的恋爱都已成定局。你很难知道现在的男朋友是不是永远的男朋友。要是你们之间的感情不能走到最后怎么办?要是你抛弃了本该是“对的人”的他，最后又后悔了怎么办?

I’m here to help you figure it out, don’t you worry. Here are 16 distinct differences between a “For Now” and a “Forever.”

别担心，我来帮你解决这个问题。以下就是男朋友对你“爱一时”和“爱一世”之间的16点显著差别。

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1. A “For Now” gets drunk with you; a “Forever” takes you home when you get too drunk.

“爱一时”，他会和你一起酩酊大醉;“爱一世”，他会在你喝醉后带你回家。

The kind of guy who’s going to be with you forever should be able to see you at your worst. A guy who’s only staying through tomorrow won’t even help you with your hangover.

要永远和你在一起的人应该能接受看到你最差的状态，爱你一时的人甚至不会帮你解决宿醉问题。

2. A “For Now,” you never feel truly comfortable with; a “Forever” makes you feel 100 percent like yourself.

“爱一时”：和他在一起你其实从没感觉自在过;“爱一世”：和他在一起你可以百分百做自己。

A man who’s the one for you doesn’t make you feel badly about farting or eating carbs, about cursing or about being over-the-top. He loves you just the way you are. A guy who’s only here for now will never get to that level with you, nor will he try to.

“爱一世”的男朋友不会在意你放屁、喝碳酸饮料、骂人或者说大话，他爱的就是真实的你;“爱一时”的男朋友和你在一起永远不会达到这种境界，他甚至连尝试都不愿意。

3. A “For Now” doesn’t even know your opinions; a “Forever” supports your dreams.

“爱一时”的男朋友甚至连你的想法都不知道;“爱一世”的男朋友支持你的梦想。

A guy who’s going to be with you forever respects you for your differences and values because he respects you. A guy who’s just here for the time being argues with you about your differences until they tear you apart.

“爱一世”的男朋友尊重你们之间的差异和你的价值观，因为他尊重你;“爱一时”的男朋友会因为分歧跟你争吵，直到你们因为分歧而分手。

4. A “For Now” only takes you out; a “Forever” is OK with staying in.

“爱一时”的男朋友只会带你出去;“爱一世”的男朋友愿意和你一起待在家里。

A man who’s going to be your “Forever” is fine with staying on the couch, enjoying your company. A guy who’s only semi-permanent wouldn’t know what to do with so few ritual activities.

“爱一世”的男朋友愿意和你一起呆在沙发上，享受你的陪伴;而“爱一时”的他会因为没太多事做而感到不知所措。

5. A “For Now” texts you goodnight; a “Forever” calls you to say good morning.

“爱一时”，他会发短信跟你说晚安;“爱一世”，他会打电话跟你说早安。

A man who wants to be in your life forever is the one who calls because he wants to hear your voice. A guy who’s here for now can barely be bothered with a text. You want to be with a man who thinks of you the minute he wakes up.

“爱一世”的男人会打电话，因为他想听见你的声音;“爱一时”的男人连发短信都嫌麻烦。你会想和那个一醒了就想起你的人在一起的 。

6. A “For Now” fights over details; a “Forever” actually cares about the details.

“爱一时”因为小事就和你争吵;而“爱一世”在乎的就是那些小事。

A forever guy is one who wants to know the intimate details of your life and explore them with you. A for-now type of man is too busy being wrapped up in his own sh*t to care.

“爱一世”，他想知道并和你一起探索你生活中的细枝末节;“爱一时”，他忙于自己的事根本没时间关注你。

7. A “For Now” is a placeholder; a “Forever” has his place locked down.

“爱一时”的男朋友只是填补目前的空缺;“爱一世”的男朋友会锁定他在你心里的位置。

When you find “The One,” there isn’t any doubt anymore. You have to trust yourself to love. The other guy is just someone to occupy your time until the latter comes along to take his place.

当你找到“对的人”，就不会再有任何怀疑，你要相信自己的爱;“爱一时”的男朋友只是填补你的空窗期，直到“对的人”出现接替他的位置。

8. A “For Now” plans the night; a “Forever” plans the rest of your life.

“爱一时”的男朋友只为你们的夜晚做准备;“爱一世”的他计划你们的未来。

Your future husband is busy planning the years ahead of you. Your temporary boyfriend can’t see or commit himself past Saturday evening.

你未来的丈夫忙于比你提前计划你们的未来，而暂时的男朋友却看不到自己和你过来周六夜晚会怎样。