国外知乎：朋友圈总有人拉仇恨怎么办？

What should I do if I feel depressed seeing my Facebook friends having everything in life?

我的朋友每天都在朋友圈晒晒晒，一副要啥有啥的优越感，我不开森哎，肿么办?

获得7.2k好评的回答：@Geoffrey Reemer

Facebook is like wearing a mask. People don't share who they really are, but how they want the world to see them. They want to cultivate the perception that they are always happy, successful and socially skilled. But in reality, everyone struggles in life.

脸书就像是人们带着的一张面具。人们不会在上面分享他们真正的样子，他们只是想得到别人的关注。他们想让别人知道他们很幸福、成功以及很善于社交。但是现实生活中，每个人都在生活中挣扎着。

Don't compare yourself to cardboard cutouts that people leave behind on Facebook. They are not real. Compare yourself to the person you want to be, and then ask yourself what steps you can take to become that person.

别跟那些脸书上虚假的东西比。那些都不是真的。跟你自己的理想比，问问你自己，为了达到理想，你走到哪一步了。

获得2.5k好评的回答：@Karan Bansal

Remember - People who have an awesome life don't need to show it to anyone over any social network.In fact they are enjoying their own life so much that they don't really care to show to any one else.

记住——过得好的人不用去向任何人或者任何社交网络炫耀。事实上他们只是喜欢自我欣赏而非去在意要不要展示给别人看。

获得6.5k好评的回答：@Niharika Banerjee

I have been at your place.

我曾经也这么想。

I failed to get into a medical college and I missed the opportunity to study in Delhi University. I was shattered back then, seeing all my ex classmates on Facebook having a good time, celebrating college life, enjoying college fests and trips and posting pictures with their new friends. Everyone had moved on with their life but I was stuck in a stupid college and an extremely boring life.

我没能进入一所医学院，也错过了在印度德里大学学习的机会。看到我以前的同学在脸书上发的幸福生活，美丽的大学，参加各种大学聚会，旅行以及跟他们的新朋友的合照，我那时候都崩溃了。所有人都在前进着，我却呆在一个垃圾学校过着一种极其无聊的生活。

I was jealous, I was depressed, I felt unworthy - it was all pathetic.

我很嫉妒，我很沮丧，我觉得没有价值——所有的事情都太可悲了。

But then I decided to be happy in all circumstances. I brought down my friend list on Facebook from 636 to 80 friends. These were the people who were just my classmates, not my friends and I am not ashamed to admit that I was extremely depressed seeing them succeed. I brought down my friend list to people who actually care about me. And now, I don't use Facebook.

但是后来我决定不管怎么样都要快乐。我把我脸书上的朋友从636个减少到了80个。他们都曾经是我的同学，却仅仅只是同学而非朋友，我不得不承认他们的成功让我很沮丧。我只留下了那些真正关心我的朋友。现在，我都不用脸书了。

I use Quora and I am honoured to have 5.3k followers here. I come across great ideas and amazing life experiences everyday through this site. I write as much as I can. During this whole time, I have been living with my parents happily. I lost weight and got fit. Life has been slow right now, but I am enjoying every bit of it.

我用知乎，而且我为有5300个关注者而感到很荣幸。在这里，我每天都看到很多奇妙的想法以及一些神奇的生活经历。我尽可能地去写点东西。我一直幸福地跟我父母住在一起。我减肥还健身。生活节奏慢下来了，但是我仍旧很快乐。

Facebook is not real life. You don't have to feel bad for yourself. I say stop using Facebook. Cherish this time with your near and dear ones. No amount of money and no amount of success can take this away from you.

脸书上的都是假的。你不必为你自己感到难过。我劝你别用脸书了。珍惜跟你爱的人相处的时间。这是多少金钱跟多大的成功都代替不了的。

"Give people your love. Don't give them your like."

“去爱别人，不要仅仅只是喜欢。