We're feeling a little misty-eyed thinking about true love. Well, you can create your own relationship success by looking for the right traits in a woman instead of just swiping right on everyone on Tinder.
作为男生，我们有时会对真爱长什么样有些迷惑。如果基于以下10点特质寻找，你就会找到完美爱侣，再也不用在Tinder到处浏览。（Tinder是国外一款基于Facebook的手机交友APP）
1. She's Independent
1. 独立
No one gets into a relationship to be a babysitter. If she's had a rough day at work, it's great to be her shoulder to cry on. But if she can't seem to function without you, you'll eventually suffocate, and if you're smart you'll run for the nearest exit.
谁也不想变成另一半的老妈子。如果她今天工作超累，你很乐意提供抚慰的肩膀。但如果她离了你就不行，总有一天你会窒息崩溃的。你要足够聪明，就赶快逃开！
2. She's Intelligent
2.智慧
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but the bimbo routine gets real old, real fast. A woman who can meet you at an intellectual level is a total turn-on. An intelligent woman will constantly surprise you and keep you on your toes. She won't let you get bored or complacent.
我真不想提醒你，但女人易老如鲜花易逝。一个在智力上与你匹敌的女性才是真性感！智慧的女性会持续带来惊喜，令人振奋！你不会无聊，也不会沾沾自喜。
3. She's Sexual
3.性感
For instance, if you're into S&M and she's more the "fluffy lingerie" type, that's a problem. The two of you have to be on the same page.
举个栗子：你喜欢SM，她却爱穿蓬松的内衣，那可能是个问题。在这点上得保持一致哦！
4. You're Attracted To Her
4.她吸引你
I know, this one is kind of obvious, but important nonetheless. Being seen with her should make you feel better about yourself. And this doesn't mean that she has to be a Heidi Klum clone. Your mutual attraction should make you both want to stay looking your best.
这个看起来显而易见，但真的很重要！和她走在一起，你应该感到自豪。不是说她得变成海蒂·克鲁姆（维密天使之一）的样子，而是你们能互相吸引、持续点亮对方的优点！
5. She Respects You
5.她尊重你
This is a biggie. A great girlfriend will keep major disputes private rather than taking you down in public. She'll make an effort to see things from your point of view (provided you do the same for her). The key here is that the respect be mutual.
这条重要了！一个超棒的女友是不会让你在公开场合下不来台的，她会把争议放在私下解决。她会努力理解你的观点（我们假装你也能理解她）。此处的关键就是：尊重是相互的。
6. She Lets You Be A Man
6.她让你更Man
Do not -- I repeat -- do not get involved with a woman who tries to get you to eat cottage cheese and fruit for breakfast and insists that you give up poker night with the guys. You will end up resenting her more than you can imagine. If she's a great girlfriend, she'll even bring you and your buddies a couple of beers and make you some of her famous sandwiches.
千万不要-我重复一下-千万不要找一个早餐强迫你吃干白酪、水果，晚上不准你打牌的女朋友，故事的最后你会怀着无比的憎恨离开她。一个完美女友会在你和哥们相处时给你拿几瓶啤酒，做几份她秘制的三明治。
7. She Doesn't Nag Without A Good Reason
7.她从不空穴来风地唠叨
We've never met a man who was convinced to change his behavior because of his girlfriend's nagging. A great girlfriend knows this and chooses her battles wisely. However, if you live together and you stay out all night without calling her. This is a situation that nobody would let slide -- not even a great girlfriend.
我们从来没见过哪个男人因为他女友唠叨就改变的，好女友懂得如何沟通。当然，如果你们同居了，而你居然不打招呼就夜不归宿，再好的女朋友也不会忍受的。
8. She Gets Along With Your Friends And Family
8.她和你的亲友相处甚欢
She'll help your parents out at Thanksgiving, try to understand your brother's twisted sense of humor. Your friends won't roll their eyes and moan when you mention that she'll be joining you guys when she gets off work -- she's one of the crowd.
她会在帮你爸妈一起准备感恩节，试着听懂你兄弟曲折的笑话。你的朋友不会在听说她要一起来玩时哀鸿遍野。她是你社交圈的一份子！
9. She Loves You
9.她爱你
If you have found a woman who loves you for who you really are and not who you pretend or try to be sometimes, you should definitely hang on to her.
如果你碰到一个女人，她喜爱你真实的模样，而不是伪装，一定要紧紧抓住她！
10.She Makes You Want To Be a Better Man
10.她让你变成更好的男人
Any man who has a great girlfriend or wife will tell you that she makes him want to be a better man. She doesn't have to say or do anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly feel bad about how you treated your sister when you were younger or find yourself trying to get your finances in order to prepare for the future, you might want to think about your motivation for doing so. It could be love.
任何一个拥有好女友的男人都会告诉你，她让他变成更好的男人！她不用说什么、做什么，只是存在就让他想变得更好！如果你突然为小时候对待姐妹的方式感到懊悔，或正在为未来打理自己的财务，你可以想一下触发点是什么？没准是爱呢。
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