和中学恋人走到现在是怎样一种体验？

编者按：有人说大学的毕业季就是情侣的分手季。连大学恋爱都难以经受住社会的考验，更何况是中学就开始的恋爱呢？所以说，和中学恋人一直走到现在是只有少数人才有的体验。来看看，和你的中学恋人走到现在是怎样一种体验？

The Good

好处

You’re dating your BFF.

你的约会对象是你永远最好的朋友。

He fell in love with you when you had braces and were experimenting with blue eye shadow.

他在你还穿吊带背心的年龄爱上了你，那个时候你才刚刚学会画蓝色的眼影。

There is truly no shame when it comes to your significant other. You can stuff your face with copious amounts of cheese fries at dinner and he won’t judge you.

在你的另一半面前仿佛永远不必感到害臊，晚饭时你可以把芝士薯条吃得满脸都是，因为他不会因此对你有成见。

There is no need to be embarrassed about downing three bottles of wine and confessing your love to him.

即使你喝了三杯酒之后向他表白了，也不必感到尴尬。

You two aren’t afraid of snapping that selfie in the middle of a busy place in broad daylight.

你俩也可以堂而皇之地在大庭广众之下玩自拍。

There are no awkward moments in your relationship; you can trust him with anything.

你们的恋爱中没有“尴尬”这个词，你可以无条件地信任他。

Your memories are priceless.

你们在一起的那些记忆是无价的。

You can be your overbearing, crazy self.你可以毫不遮掩地做自己，霸道、疯狂。

I’ve witnessed some of my friends analyze how long they should wait to text last night’s hook up or watch their phones, hoping he will text because they “most definitely cannot text first”.

我看过很多闺蜜煞费苦心地分析在昨晚约会后多久才能给对方发短信，有的迫不及待地查看手机期待对方的短信。因为女生“当然不能先主动发信息啦”。

It is truly a blessing to be able to triple text someone without even thinking twice that it may be annoying.

无所顾虑地给一个人连发三次短信、而不用担心他会生气，这也的确很难得。

No dating rules apply when you’ve been dating someone since high school.

对于从中学就开始恋爱的你们，并没有什么约会法则可言。

The Bad

坏处

Growing apart is possible.

很可能变成异地恋。

Change is good in most aspects of life, but this is not necessarily true when it comes to your high school sweetheart.

生活绝大多数的变化是好的，但对于中学就在一起的恋人而言却不一定是好事。

Over the course of multiple years, big decisions, like where to attend college, which city to live in after graduation and what job to take frequently come up in conversations.

你们在一起这么多年，有很多重大问题需要讨论：比如上哪个大学、毕业后在哪里生活、找什么样的工作。

You constantly change your beliefs, values, passions, interests, hair color, etc. You may not agree on everything, and giving in to your partner’s desires may make you feel like you aren’t maintaining your individuality.

在成长的过程中，你的信念、价值观、激情、兴趣、甚至头发的颜色都会经常发生变化。你们不可能对所有事情的想法都一致，趋同于另一半的想法可能会使你觉得自己失去了个性。

You’re playing the waiting game.

你似乎一直都在等待。

After eight years of dating the same person at such a young age, it is easy to bring up the scary stuff that men don’t like to hear, like engagement, marriage and kids.

你们年纪轻轻就坠入爱河，在长达8年的恋爱之后，你会很容易提及订婚、结婚、生子等男人或许不喜欢的话题。

You want to start your life with him, move in together and wake up next to each other every day so badly, but you also want to finish school and be successful in your new job.

你如此渴望开启自己和他的新生活，住在一起、每天彼此依偎着醒来。但你也很想完成学业，并在自己的新工作中事业有成。

It is important to try to enjoy the present instead of waiting on the future.

享受现在，而不是等待未来——这一点很重要。

You’ve come across the “what if” question.

你总是被“要是……怎么样”这样的问题所困扰

There is only one thing I can think of that is truly ugly for high school sweethearts, and that is the question of “what if?” What if you chose someone else? Would you be happier? Sadder? Living in a different location? Working at a better job? Having more fun? You get serious cases of FOMO at times.

我认为从中学就开始恋爱只有一个真正令人讨厌的问题，那就是“要是……怎么样”。要是你选择的是别人会怎么样？你会更开心还是更难过？你会生活在不同的地方吗？你会有一份更好的工作吗？你会过得更加开心吗？担心自己中学时候的选择使你错过了更好的人（FOMO：Fear Of Missing Out），这经常会使你感到焦虑。

It’s true that it’s okay to sacrifice a little for the one you love, but the honest truth is that asking “what if?” will end your relationship.

为了爱人牺牲一点无可厚非。但是如果你总是产生“要是……怎么样”这样的疑问，那会毁了你们的爱情。

You’ve chosen your high school sweetheart for multiple reasons, and those reasons are why you continue to stay in love with him.

既然你在中学时代就选择了TA，那么肯定是有很多原因的。这些原因也正是你坚持下去的理由。

I’m a firm believer of fairy tale romances, happy endings and soul mates.

我坚信童话般浪漫爱情、美好结局和灵魂伴侣的存在。

Fate brings people together for a reason, and when you’ve found your person you know it, regardless of what stage of life you are in.

命运让人们相遇是有原因的。当你找到对的人、不管是人生中的什么时候，你心里其实是知道的。