时间都去哪儿了？你在浪费生命的13件事

1. You spend too much time doing things you shouldn’t be doing

你在不应该做的事情上浪费了太多的时间

Video games. Reality TV. Surfing the ‘net. Stuffing your face with too much food. Drinking too much. And the list goes on. Take a serious look at your life. Where are you spending the majority of your time? And does it serve you well? Is it leading to a better life? Is it laying the foundation for a bright future? If not, then you need to reevaluate your routine activities and make changes.

视频游戏、电视真人秀、上网、吃得太多、喝得太多。这样的例子不胜枚举。认真观察一下你的生活：你把大部分时间都用在哪里了？这大把的时间你利用得好吗？会让你带来更好的生活吗？为光明的前途奠定了基础吗？如果答案是否定的，那么，你需要重新评估你的日常活动并做出改变。

2. You find yourself complaining a lot

你发现自己太爱抱怨了

I know people who are constantly overwhelmed with life, and they never cease to tell me. Are you one of those people? Do you complain about your job, your boss, your salary, your neighbors or your spouse? If you do, then you are doing nothing but exuding negative energy. Negativity doesn’t change things. It keeps you stuck. So change your thoughts and talk about what you appreciate about your life, not what you don’t like.

我认识一些这样人：他们不断受到生活的冲击，不停地对我诉苦抱怨。你是其中一员吗？你在抱怨你的工作、你的老板、你的薪水、你的邻居或你的配偶吗？如果你整天都在抱怨，自己处于释放负能量的状态下，你就什么也做不了，你会束手无策、停滞不前。因此，要改变你的思想，谈谈你喜欢过什么样的生活，不要抱怨你不喜欢的生活状态。

3. You don’t feed your mind

你的思想

If you’re not continually growing and learning as a person, then you are stagnant. That’s what your mind does if you don’t keep it active and learn new things. Positive challenges in your life will expand your mind, not send it backwards.

如果你不坚持让自己不断成长和学习的话，那么你就会停滞不前。如果你不坚持积极学习新知识的话，那么，你的思想就会落后。积极挑战你的人生会扩大你的思想境界，不要对生活抱以消极退缩的态度。

4. You have a lot of negative self-talk

你经常进行消极的自我暗示

Self-talk can make or break your life. As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can, or think you can’t… either way, you’re right.” If you tell yourself that you’re not smart enough to get that promotion or start a business, then you’re right. If you tell yourself you’re too exhausted to put effort into changing your life, then you’re right. Whatever you tell yourself becomes your reality. So closely monitor what you say to yourself, because you will find that your life matches your thoughts.

自我暗示会成就你的生活也会毁掉你的生活。亨利-福特说过：“无论你认为自己能做到还是认为自己不能做到…..这就要看你怎么暗示自己了。” 如果你暗示自己不够聪明、不能晋升、不能创业，那么你就会变成你自己所暗示的状态。如果你暗示自己太累了，无法努力改变自己目前的生活状态，那么，结果你目前的生活状态就会一成不变。你暗示自己的话，会变成你的现状。所以，要密切监视自己对自己的暗示，因为你会发现你的想法决定你的生活状态。

5. You feel uninspired

你感觉自己缺乏动力

Do you have a passion for anything? I know a lot of people who think they don’t have a passion. But that’s never the case. There has to be something that you enjoy doing. So you need to rediscover what excites you, and then do more of it.

你是不是对任何事情都充满热情？我认识很多人都认为自己没有激情，但其实并非如此，总是有你自己喜欢做的事情。所以，你需要重新认识自己，去做一些让自己感到兴奋的事情，然后，多做一些让自己感到幸福快乐的事情。

6. You don’t plan for your future

你不会计划未来

If you don’t have a goal or a plan, then you are like a boat that is wandering aimlessly in the ocean hoping to end up somewhere good. But you can’t do that. You have to make a step-by-step guide to get where you want to go. Just like a GPS gets you to a destination, you need your own inner GPS to guide you.

如果你没有目标或者计划的话，那么，你就像一艘漫无目的游荡在大海中的船，希望这艘船最后停泊在一个美好的地方。但是你无法一步到达。你必须循序渐进一步一步地接近你想要抵达的彼岸方向。就像GPS导航一样指引你抵达目的地，你需要自己内心的GPS导航来指引自己抵达彼岸的目的地。

7. You spend too much time with people who don’t contribute to your growth

你在那些对你的成长没有帮助的人身上花了太多时间

It’s easy to get stuck hanging out with people who are not making you feel like a better person. But if you keep doing that, then you will stay stagnant or get pulled down with them. I like to call them “Energy Vampires.” They suck the life out of you and give you nothing positive in return. Instead, go find growth-oriented people to be around.

不要和无法给你带来正能量的人混在一起，这样就很容易把自己困住。如果你想要继续这样下去的话，你就会和他们一样处于停滞不前的状态或被他们拖下水，我喜欢称之为“能量吸血鬼”，他们会破坏你的生活状态，无法给你以积极性的回报。要和你周围对你的成长方向起引导作用的人来往。

8. You’re addicted to your phone

你沉迷在手机的世界里

Sure, cell phones are super cool gadgets that can leave us entranced when we use them. While that’s fun, think about all the time you are wasting with your phone. Even worse, think about all the relationships that might be affected. Maybe you’re texting or searching the internet while you’re having dinner with your spouse or kids. If you are, you’re missing out on meaningful time you can spend with your loved ones – or time you could devote to making a plan for your future.

自然了，手机是超级酷的小玩意儿，会让我们整天着迷般地使用它。尽管这东西很有好玩，想想你玩手机浪费的所有时间。更糟糕的是，想想你玩手机可能你的一切人际关系都会受到影响。也许在和家人一起吃晚饭时，你在发短信或者上网。如果你是这个状态的话，你就错过了你与自己所爱的家人共享这有意义的时光，或者你错过了你制定未来计划的时间。

9. You spend money on things that don’t matter

你在无关紧要的事情上浪费了太多钱

In fact, I know people who can’t pay their mortgage, but still have the fanciest gadgets on the planet. If you stop to think about it, there is very little that we actually need. Food, water, shelter and love are some of those things. All the rest are just bonuses. So look at what you’re spending your money on and see if you can make adjustments. Maybe you can use the money you save to invest in your future.

我其实知道大家支付不起房产的抵押贷款，但却对最时尚最新款的科技玩意却照买不误。其实，如果你不想拥有这件东西的话，那么，我们真正需要的东西就很少。吃的、喝的、住的、爱都属于我们生存之所需。其余的都只是属于可有可无的东西而已。所以，看看你自己花的钱，看看是否可以对该花的钱和不该花的钱调整一下。也许你可以用省下的钱为你的未来做投资。

10. You don’t get enough sleep

你的睡眠时间不足

I’m not a medical doctor, but I have read enough books to know how vitally important sleep is. Sleep is crucial for good health. If you’re too busy to get enough sleep or if you simply have a bad habit of staying up until the wee hours of the morning, you should re-evaluate your habits.

我不是医生，但我读的书很多，我了解睡眠的重要性，睡眠对健康至关重要。如果你太过繁忙而导致睡眠不足，或者你养成了一个熬夜到凌晨的坏习惯，你应该重新审视你的这个坏习惯的问题。

11. You’re not taking care of your body

你没有照顾好你自己的身体

Not only is sleep essential to your health, so is food and exercise. I know I’m not telling you anything you don’t already know. But eating a balanced, healthy diet and moving your body around truly does have more positive effects other than weight loss. So take a look at your diet and level of activity. You might find that making a few small changes will greatly improve your life.

不仅睡眠对你的健康至关重要，饮食和锻炼也同样对你的健康至关重要。我知道我所说的你也懂的，但均衡饮食、健康饮食除了有减肥的作用外，真的对你的身体健康具有更加积极的影响作用。所以，看看你的日常饮食情况和活动量。你可能会发现做出一些小的改变会对你的生活大有改善。

12. You don’t leave your comfort zone

你走不出自己习惯了的舒适区

I know how easy it is to live in a comfort zone. In fact, when I go to a familiar restaurant, I always order the same thing. Not because I’m afraid to try something new, but because I like the food I normally order. But that’s not the kind of comfort zone I’m talking about. I’m talking about taking a risk that will improve your life. And keep in mind, there is a difference between a “risk” and a “calculated risk.” Any risk has the possibility to be deadly, but a calculated risk is one in which you’ve weighed all options and thus come up with a good, sensible plan of action.

我知道活在自己的舒适区里有多容易。其实，我也总爱去自己熟悉的那家餐厅吃饭，我也爱点同样的东西。不是因为我害怕尝试新鲜事物，而是因为我喜欢我经常点的那道菜。但这并不算是我所说的那种舒适区。我的意思是去冒险来改善你的生活。要记住：“风险”和“计算风险”是有区别的。任何风险都有可能是致命性的，但计算风险是指你权衡了一切的选项后而想出了一个很好的很明智的行动计划。

13. You’re living a life you don’t like

你在过着自己不喜欢的生活

The way I measure success is by someone’s level of happiness. Are you happy? If not, then you should change something! Even a feeling of contentment or satisfaction doesn’t tell you that you’re living life to the fullest. Life should be exciting! So if you’re not enjoying life, take a look at some of the changes you can make to get you to a better place.

我通过衡量一个人的幸福水平的方式来衡量成功。你幸福吗？如果不幸福，那么，你应该改变一些事情！一点点的满足感或满意度，并不代表你把生活过到了极致。生活应该是激动人心的！所以如果现在的你没有在享受生活，看看自己还要做出一些怎样的改变，让自己的生活变得更美好。

If any of these 13 points sounded like you, don’t despair. You can make changes. But the first change you need to make is getting rid of the idea that you can’t do it. Many times, your biggest obstacle is your own thought process. So start there. Change your thinking – then change your life!

如果你的生活状态恰巧与这13点有类似之处，那也不要绝望。你可以自己做出改变来改变自己的生活状态。但是，首先需要自己改变的一点是：你要摆脱“我做不了” 的这种想法。很多时候，你最大的障碍是你自己的思维过程。所以，从改变自己的思维开始。改变你的思维角度，那么，你的生活状态就会随之改变！