人类内心3个最强大的敌人

For many people, self-improvement becomes somewhat of a hobby. These people know that by challenging themselves they stand to gain personally, professionally, financially, and spiritually. But why do other people stop trying to improve themselves? With so much to gain, what is it that prevents some folks from moving forward in life? When you get right down to it, there are three major bumps on the road to self-development. You need to know what they are and how to overcome them so you can reach your highest potential. 对许多人来说，自我提升可以算作一种爱好。这些人知道通过不断挑战自己，他们能在人格上、专业领域里、经济上和精神上得到提升。但为什么有些人却停止提升自己呢？提升自己的收获很多，但是什么在阻止着人们在生活中前进？当你认真思考这件事的时候，就会发现在你进行自我提升的过程中会遇上三个主要的障碍。你必须要知道它们是什么，并且知道如何去克服它们，这样你才能激发你的高潜能。

1. Fear- This one emotion can stop someone before they ever get a chance to begin. Fear comes in many forms. There’s the fear of failure, the fear of rejection, the fear of change, the fear of success. The list goes on and on. Every time you step out of your comfort zone you’re going to feel fear. The problem is that the only way you can grow and improve is by stepping out of your comfort zone! A little fear can be a good thing. It lets you know you’re moving in the right direction.

恐惧，这种情绪能在人们得到机会并着手开始时阻止他们。恐惧的到来有多种形式。对失败的恐惧，对被拒绝的恐惧，对改变的恐惧，对成功的恐惧。这个单子可以继续列下去。每当你离开你的安全地带时，恐惧感就会降临。问题是，唯一能让你成长和提升的方式就是离开你的安全地带！些许的恐惧也许是好的。它会让你知道你是否在对的方向前进。

2. Despair- This little bugger is often a side effect of failure. It’s that feeling that you’re no good, that you can’t do it, and that you were a fool for even trying. Whereas fear prevents people from ever trying, despair prevents people from ever trying again. In order to avoid despair, you need to embrace failure. When you try something new, you need to realize that you’re going to fail at first. In fact, you’ll probably fail a lot! Take these little failures as learning experiences that you can build into great successes! Don’t despair. Every time you fail brings you one step closer to your goal.

这混蛋通常是失败的副作用。它正是那样一种感觉：让你感到自己一无是处、让你觉得你做不成某事，甚至让你觉得你曾尝试过这事都是很愚蠢的。恐惧阻止你每次新的尝试，而绝望阻止你再一次去尝试。为了避免绝望，你必须要正视失败。当你去尝试新鲜事物时，你必需要意识到，你的第一次尝试将会以失败告终。事实上，你很有可能会失败很多次！把这些无足轻重的失败当成是吸取经验，你就会取得一系列巨大的成功！不要绝望。每一次的失败会让你更接近你的目标。

3. Fatalism- Fatalism is a way people rationalize despair. After a particularly hard failure you’ll hear people say thinks like, “I guess God just wants me to be a ditch digger.” Or, “This must be my lot in life.” These people see their destiny as fixed. The problem is, if you think your destiny is determined by someone or something else, you’ve lost all power in your life. You’ll never improve because you don’t think anything you do will help. This way of thinking can lead to depression in a hurry. Don’t think for a second that you deserve any less than the very best in life!

宿命论是人们合理化绝望的一个借口。在经历过惨痛的失败后，你会听到一些人说“我猜想上帝只是想让我去成为一个挖沟工人。”又或者，“这就是我的命吧。”。这些人把自己的命运看成是固定的。问题就在于，如果你认为你的命运是由某人或者某事主宰的，你就会失去生命中的力量。你永远也不会进步，因为你不相信自己做的任何尝试会带来积极的改变。这种思维方式会很快地导致抑郁症。决不能那样想：你不值得获得生命中最美妙的东西。

The best thing to combat fear, despair, and fatalism is knowledge. The more you analyze a fear, the more you realize how irrational it is. Then the fear loses power over you. The more you know about why you failed, the less likely you are to make the same mistake again. Failures become learning experiences. Finally, if you take time to learn about yourself and think about why you deserve to succeed, you become less and less likely to accept your “lot in life” and demand more.

知识是对抗恐惧、绝望和宿命论的最有利武器。你越深入地分析一种恐惧，你越会发现它的不合理之处。然后恐惧就不会再控制你。你对你失败的原因分析得越透彻，你就越不可能犯同样的错误。这样，失败开始成为经验。最终，如果你花点时间去认识你自己，并且思考自己成功的原因，你就会越来越不会接受“命中注定要失败”这个观点，反而会想要得到更多更多的东西。