这些迹象或表明你们已争吵过头

1.) Social invites are an invitation for a fight

1.) 社交邀请变成了争吵的理由

When you and your boyfriend get invited to your BFF's Christmas party or a mutual friend's Halloween bash, you're excited, right? You're looking forward to seeing your friends and having fun and you know that it's going to be a great night.

当你和男朋友都受邀参加闺蜜的圣诞节派对或共同朋友举办的圣诞节狂欢时，你们很激动，是不是？你期待着与朋友相见、度过愉快的夜晚。

Except… if you and your boyfriend are fighting too much, then social invites are basically invitations for arguments.

除非……如果你和男朋友正吵得不可开交，那这种社交邀请就会演变成争吵的理由。

Your boyfriend might say that he doesn't like the people that you hang out with so he doesn't want to go. He might claim that he's tired from the work week when he's actually upset about something that has to do with your relationship (but he's not talking to you about it).

你的男朋友可能会说，他不喜欢你的这些'狐朋狗友'，所以不愿意去。当他对你们的恋情有点失望却又不想对你明说时，他也可能会说，工作一周已经很累了，他不想去。

On the other hand, you might not want to go to something that he's invited to, either, because you might know that you're having some problems but you're afraid to bring those issues up. If you want to know how much is too much when it comes to fighting in a relationship, the fact that you two are fighting about party or event invitations is a huge sign. This is absolutely too much arguing and shouldn't be happening.

另一方面，当他被别人邀请，你也有可能不想陪他一起去，因为你可能知道你们之间存在问题，但却害怕提出这些问题。如果你想知道谈恋爱争吵时哪些情况表明争吵过头，那为了派对或活动邀请而争吵就是迹象之一。这绝对是争吵过头的迹象，是不应该发生的。

2.) You're scared to talk to each other about anything and everything

2.) 你们害怕互相谈论任何事

Couples need to be able to communicate with each other about the things that they like about each other and their relationship… and they also need to be able to come clean about the things that are becoming bigger problems.

情侣应该坦诚的交流：聊一聊为什么喜欢对方，为什么喜欢这段感情。而且，还应该对即将成为两人之间巨大阻碍的问题有所了解。

It's not sustainable to continue seeing each other when you're scared to talk to each other about anything and everything. Unfortunately, if you have a problem with your boyfriend (maybe you don't think that he's committing to you enough or you want him to get his dream job instead of complaining all the time), you need to be able to talk to him about it.

当你们害怕互相谈论任何事情时，这段恋情就没有继续下去的必要了。不幸的是，如果你们俩存在问题（也许你认为他给你的承诺还不够，或者你希望他去做理想工作而非一直抱怨），那你就得和他聊聊了。

When you're afraid to bring things up because you don't think that he's going to respond well, that's a sign that you're fighting with each other too much. You really have to be honest with each other about the good and bad things that are going on.

如果你因为怕他做出不好的反应而不愿提起这些事，那这就表明你们已争吵过头。你们必须坦诚相待，既享受美好一面，又认清糟糕一面！