It took me 10 years to get back the confidence I had at 19 and to realize that I didn t want to deal with gender issues.
分析主干：It took me 10 years to get back... and to realize...
句首的It 是形式主语，真正的主语是and 并列的两个动词不定式。第一个不定式to get back 的宾语the confidence 后有一个定语从句I had at 19 对它加以修饰。第二个不定式to realize 带了一个宾语从句，由that 引导。
译文：我花了10 年的时间才找回了我19 岁时的自信，才意识到我本不想谈论性别问题。